Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. I have been thinking about this episode for a long time, and honestly, it really softened my heart to be thinking about this kind of deep, kind of hard to talk about episode. I got a question from a beloved listener of this podcast a few weeks ago who's going through something difficult in her life.
And she asked me a question that I feel the answer to this is very nuanced and complex and simple all in one, because we're talking about the human experience. We're talking about things that feel out of our control as a conscious creator. You know, I talk so much about being a conscious creator and being the cause of your reality.
And her question was basically like, how do you kind of come to terms with something that basically you're getting what you don't want? So I made a little list of things that this might apply to, you know, someone you love's mental health, death, suicide, abuse, infertility, grief, loss, addiction, and a number of things in life that we experience.
It's like, how do you come to terms with these things and also believe that you are the cause and the creator of your reality? And I thought it was such a good question, and I sat with it for a long time, and it's not that I've never thought about it because I absolutely have, and there's some things that I honestly don't have the answer for.
I want to share my contemplations and reflections with you, and what I lovingly refer to with my clients is like the gray zone. You know, it's not black and white, and for a lot of us listening to this podcast specifically, many of us were taught things as if it was black and white, and then you have a conversation like this that's very much in the gray.
And so I'm going to invite you into the gray zone with me to talk about nuanced topics in the spirit of conscious creation still, while acknowledging that there are things in life that I'm not going to dismiss or say that it should be easy or that you should have different feelings.
Honestly, this came from a lot of my own inner work, a lot of the work that I do in my coaching and mentoring and inner work, I guess, related both with my coaches and mentors, but as well as like reading books and journaling and just like the inner process, right, is navigating this. Like how do you, you know, I read a book about conscious creation. I'm like, yeah, like I'm the cause and creator of my life and in my business.
And we talk about moving from victim consciousness to freedom and victim consciousness to creator consciousness and things like that. That's why the Gene Keys has resonated so deeply for me because it gives context and language to the shadow, to things that feel very difficult, that bring us to our knees, that make us question ourselves and our reality, that make us upset with other people, that make us question God, that make us angry.
Like a lot of the things that I listed, I've talked to people firsthand that are going through it right now, who have been through it, who are trying to grapple with the reality of human nature sometimes that feels like they're not in control, whether that's, like I said, death or infertility or abuse. Like these are heavy topics.
How do you put that in the context of some of the stuff that we've talked about, about quantum play, about conscious creation? And so I have some distinctions that I have, I guess, noted along the way, not because I have all the answers. I don't. I wish I did, you guys. I don't. This is just my thoughts about this and how I have come to terms with being someone that has a bleeding heart. I really do. I think about the kids.
I think about people who are literal victims in the world. I think about people who have been killed. I think about people who can't have babies when they want to have babies. I think about parents who lose a child. I think about people who are cancer survivors. I think about people who get sick. I think about kids who get sick. I do. I think about these terrible, horrific things.
It's making me weepy right now because, like, yeah, this is real life. And I know this might seem like kind of a downer episode, but I wanted to address it, one, because I love this woman who was bold enough to ask this question and genuinely wants to know. She's not trying to nitpick what I'm sharing. She's like, what's your perspective on this? Who's going through something very difficult?
So the first distinction that I wrote down was co-creation versus control. I think sometimes there's this misunderstanding of what conscious creation really means. Doesn't mean that we get to control other people or events. Doesn't mean we get to control devastating circumstances. Doesn't mean we get to control other people or their choices. It doesn't mean that we can control the weather or how other people choose to live their lives. But I do believe in co-creation.
I do believe that we co-create our experience in life. So while I might not be able to control someone else's, let's say this is a made up scenario. Okay, let's say I have a loved one who smoked their whole life and they get lung cancer. I am not saying that you are the cause of that happening, but I am saying you are the co-creator in your experience of their cancer.
You get to interpret and experience their illness and their choices based on not being a victim of it. This is a high level conversation. Moving from victim consciousness to the gift, like in the Gene Keys framework, right, to the gift, to being a conscious creator, to being free, doesn't mean that you get to control their cancer, but it does mean you get to experience it by your choice through identifying what you've been believing, what you've been experiencing, how you've been perceiving it.
And that's where thought work comes in. That's where therapy and coaching and hypnotherapy and parts work and all these modalities that come into play like are to assist us to not be a victim to circumstances, even ones that are out of your control, you know, that like have nothing to do with your choices.
A lot of you, this is why you're going to listen to this episode, is like the things that you're experiencing have nothing to do with your choices. It has to do with choices, health, circumstances of other people, people that you love. And some of you are listening and it has to do with you and your body or your health or your marriage or your kids, right, that's like directly impacting you.
And so while you cannot control it, you can co-create your experience, your perception, how you feel about it, what you choose to think about it. And this doesn't mean that you are always going to choose the top side of the emotional scale. It doesn't mean you're always going to choose high vibe thoughts.
Sometimes the best thing you can do is choose grief or anger or sadness or frustration or grief and loss as a human experience, which leads me to the next distinction, which is human experience versus robotic existence. I believe we chose to come here to this earth for the human experience. We didn't come to live in a vacuum. That's actually my third distinction that we'll get to. We didn't come to live like a robot where everything was one way our whole life. We didn't come for just the ups and the highs.
We actually came for the highs and the lows, the ups and the downs. And we wanted to be able to sift and sort and feel and choose all of it. And I think for me, learning conscious creation, there was a time period for sure that I thought like the goal was to be like high vibe all the time, to feel amazing, to be on top of the world, to get the money and get the house and get the car and feel like you're flying all the time.
But what I've learned is and actually one of the books that really helped me with this was the book Happier Than God by Neil Donald Walsh. And he talked about this idea of context. We have to have a context to be able to be human. We have to have hot and cold, up and down, sad and happy, gain and loss. We need to have abundance and scarcity. We need to have competition and collaboration.
We need to have success and failure in order to have anything that we want. And this is a very big concept. And I get that. But I think if you're still listening to this episode and you're here for this conversation, I think that makes a lot of sense. There has to be a context for us to choose something. If there was no context, we really couldn't make any choices. We live in the world of duality, of contrast, and we would still choose it.
We would still choose it knowing how hard it is, knowing that we're going to be weeping and terrified sometimes, knowing that we're going to be heartbroken, knowing that we're going to be let down, knowing that we're going to be grieving something in our lifetime. Many of you have crossed those thresholds many times over.
But we would choose it because we are in our heart of hearts, in our divine blueprint, in our DNA, in how we were created. We want to be creators, which means we have to have a context to choose from and to create from. And so we don't want to be in a robotic existence. We want the human experience. This is actually one of the reasons that in the I would say year or two, I've really been drawn to studying the depth of stuff.
So that's why the Gene Keys resonate so deeply, because there is evolution laced throughout it, but it also talks about the depths of human experience. It's why I'm drawn to poetry. It's why, as much as I love conscious creation, there's this whole other side of what's blooming and blossoming inside of me, which is the context of human experience.
All the things that I shared about in the beginning of this episode, heartbreak, loss, grief, frustration, overwhelm, despair, all these things that we have to navigate as humans. But that was why we came. It's why we wanted to be a human in a human body. We wanted to learn and navigate and feel alive. Alive is an interesting word, like aliveness as a goal is a really interesting, I think, paradigm to live in, where you're not shunning the lower half of the emotional scale. You came to experience all of it.
And so when something unwanted comes into our experience, we have a choice. And that's the gift, that we have a choice in how to interpret and how to experience the unwanted. Even if that choice is feeling sad, even if that choice is grief, even if that choice is anger, it's still our choice. And I think that's how you can be a conscious creator and not operate in the victim frequency, where something bad happens and you're not just going to like gaslight yourself into being like, it's fine, I'm high vibe.
That's not what I'm saying at all. And I hope I never portray that in this podcast, because what I'm saying is there's things that happen in life that are not wanted, that you would not choose, but you get a choice in your response to it. That's why the book Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl is such a famous book, because he's the one that was like, between stimulus and response, there's a space that we get to choose our response. And that's what I'm saying.
And the other thing that I'm going to add here is, many of us need to actually choose responses on the lower half of the vibrational scale, on the lower half of the emotional scale. Sometimes the best response is sadness, frustration, anger, despair, grief, heartbreak, depression, as a state, not as a way of living life long term, not as a long term way of being, but as like an emotional experience, like the wave.
I wear a necklace that has, let's see, three or four, one, two, three, three, I couldn't remember, three waves on it. It reminds me, there's this line in the Gene Keys. It's active in my profile, a few different places, but it says the stilling of the wave. And it reminds me that I want to be the stilling of the wave. That doesn't mean that I don't experience waves. It means that I am the observer and the experiencer of the waves.
I am not the wave. I am the experiencer of the waves. And so when I feel grief, when I feel overwhelmed, when I feel hurt, when I feel sad, when I feel like I didn't get what I wanted, when I feel like something wrong happened to me or a loved one, when I feel like there's injustice in the world, which I do, when I feel despair, when I look at something that I'm like, that's not okay. I don't want to change how I feel about that.
I just want to remember, I choose to experience this. I want to feel this. I'm not trying to get out of these emotions. Because again, the two distinctions that we've shared so far, co-creation versus control, I'm not here to control things, but I do want to co-create. I'm here for the human experience, not a robotic existence. The third one is conscious creation versus living in a vacuum. We do not live in a vacuum.
We live in a world full of co-creative forces, people, places, things, ideas, movements, frameworks, unspoken momentum about things. We do not live in a vacuum. And so it is, sometimes I think conscious creation is taught as if it's in a vacuum. If you think these thoughts and feel these feelings, you will manifest XYZ, period. It's like, that's not how life works. If you are in a vacuum, that is true.
But you're not creating within a vacuum. You're creating in a family life, with aging parents, with kids, with siblings, with partners and spouses, with complex childhood memories and experiences that you are sifting and sorting through and processing, with grief, with loss, with all of the human experience in your personal ways. You're not creating in a vacuum.
You're creating in a world full of connections and ideas and people and memories and other people's choices. That's not to say that you're a victim of these things. It just means that this is the context that you find yourself. And so I want to be mindful because also victim consciousness is something that I help my clients see for themselves. I will never say you're in victim consciousness. You're being a victim.
That is not how I coach. And my job is to hold the mirror to be like, is there a way that you want to reclaim some of your power about this? Is there a higher way to think about this? Is there a higher way that you want to experience this? Choose this. The other thing that I'll share is that doesn't mean that there are no victims in life. There are. Victim in circumstance is different than victim consciousness. There are real victims in life.
I want to say that. But the consciousness of a victim is something that I think that's our chance to reclaim our sovereignty and our ability to co-create the life experience that we want. So that's nuanced, right? Because it means that sometimes things are beyond your control, but you get to control your choice of how you respond, of how you choose to see it, of your attitude, of your energetic state in life. And it's complex, right?
Because sometimes really terrible things happen, but you get to choose how you respond to that, whether you hook into it, whether you use that event as a excuse to become a pessimist, or whether you choose an outlook of optimism and abundance and hope and joy and love. A few weeks ago, I recorded a podcast where I quoted Frederick Johnson's book. It was basically that the secret of the universe is that it's always giving you opportunities to be more loving.
And like, that's the conversation at the heart of this episode. Loving for self, loving for humanity, loving for victims in the world, loving for places where it is not your choice, finding a way to be loving for self when you're going through circumstances you would not choose for yourself, whether that's something that you have that you don't want, or something you want that you don't have and can't have for whatever reason.
These are the complexities of life. But we get to be still coming back to be at cause for how we experience these things. There's some things that we can be cause for, like your business is one of them. Now, here's the thing, though. No matter what I do in my business, I cannot be the cause of a specific person buying from me.
No matter what I do, there's still going to be things in the world that, like, I cannot control, but I can choose my response to it. I can choose to be hopeful. I can choose to send aid. I can choose to be a contributor, a philanthropist, an investor. I can choose to be a giver. I can choose to be a donor of causes that I can support. I can choose optimism and faith and hope and love despite dark circumstances.
That's within my control, because it's within me. I can't control those outside circumstances, but I can control me, right? That's conscious creation, but we are not in a vacuum. So you are co-creating with the economy, with your clients, with your loved ones, with your partner, with your family, with your clients and community. You are co-creating.
You are not operating in a vacuum, despite what some ways that it makes it seem in conscious creation, because this is a multiplayer game. I love this metaphor of video games. This is a multiplayer game. This is not a single-player game. Single-player games get very lonely, but good thing you didn't opt in for a single-player game. You came here to co-create with other people, which means whenever you think you're in a vacuum, it's a misinterpretation.
And vacuum can be a strong word, but like loneliness, being left behind, being unrelatable. That's like the high understanding of a vacuum. Conscious creation means you get to create your experience and your response to all of this. And so it's taking the power back and to choose to be a powerful creator, including how you co-create with people in your life.
Okay, the next distinction that I wrote is buffet of life versus dessert only. When I first learned the tools of conscious creation, it was like dessert only. I want high vibe. I want what's great. I want more money. I want a bigger house. I want a successful business. I want clients. I want, I want, I want, I want like a kid, right? Dessert only. And the wise, loving parent knows dessert only will make you sick.
It's not what you came for. We came for the buffet of life to choose to eat vegetables, to choose to eat protein, to choose to eat dessert sometimes, to choose to eat carbs sometimes, to choose to eat and drink whatever, right? But we wanted the buffet. We wanted the choice. We wanted the variety, not dessert only.
And so when you think about that in terms of life, sometimes when you hear about like the law of attraction and the universal laws and conscious creation, it's easy to get in the dessert only mindset where it's like, oh, then I only want high vibe experiences. No, you don't. Not really. And you can like even try that on like deep in your soul. Why did you really come? Did you come for a dessert only experience?
Or did you want the full spectrum of your human life, including the downtimes? It's like about being more conscious, even in the downtimes, about feeling grief fully, about allowing yourself to be sad, and then you move through it. Emotions are signals. Sometimes we ignore the signals when we get into conscious creation, but the signals are so important.
One of my favorite definitions of negative emotions is like it's pointing in the direction of truth, right? If you're experiencing an emotional reaction negatively, it's often a signal that what you're believing isn't helpful. That doesn't mean to ignore the negative emotion or get out of it as soon as possible. It's like to be with it, to learn from it, to feel it fully, because sometimes that's what you want to feel.
I actually just found out last week one of my friends growing up had died. We weren't super close, but she was a mentor to me. Very fond memories of her. I'm really grateful for her. And I was really sad when I found out that she passed when she died. Sad for her husband, sad for her kids, sad for her loved ones. And I wouldn't choose to be happy about that. I also know she's an eternal soul, and she's just on the other side, the non-physical side of life now. But I'm sad too. And I want to be sad.
I don't want to be happy necessarily about that, about the loss. Happy for her next adventure, sad for the loss of her life, here. Sad for her family who are grieving her. And I choose that. And I think that's the nuance of what we're talking about here. I didn't just jump to being happy. I didn't just jump to high vibe. It was like, yeah, like, this is sad. And I want to be sad. The fate of life.
Sometimes I choose the lower half on purpose because I'm a human. And I came here for the human experience. The next distinction that I wanted to talk about was divine contrast or divine context versus victim consciousness, which has been laced throughout this conversation. But if we see context and contrast as part of the plan, I would even say like a necessary part of the plan of why we're here and how we can create here, it takes us out of victim consciousness and into creator consciousness truly.
We get to create our experience. We don't get to control other people, but we do get to create our experience. Once I recognize that I am no longer a victim of anything, even things that are not okay, even things that are unjust, even things that I don't appreciate or like or would choose, I'm not a victim to it. Like I mentioned, victim consciousness and actual victims are two different things. And I want to be really clear about that.
But me and you listening, getting out of victim consciousness is just the ability to see that you have a choice in how you interpret and experience this and that you have a choice in your response and what you do. And when you look at this, this is why I love the language of Gene Keys, right? The shadow, the shadow of victim consciousness has a gift. Every shadow has a gift.
And this is like my whole main premise of my work as a coach is we're looking for the shadows and literally being our human selves and living the full spectrum of our humanity. And we know that we are creators. So we're looking for the gift in it. Even if it's to become more loving, even if it's to have more compassion, more grace, more wisdom, more empathy, more love, I would make the case that that's almost always the case when we're going through life.
It's also to develop ourselves into being resourceful for other people, resourceful for our families, resourceful for ourselves, to get clear about who we really are and what we're really capable of. A lot of the things that I have learned about myself, about life, a lot of the skills that I've developed, a lot of the resourcefulness that I've built within me to become an entrepreneur came from shadows, came from circumstances that were hard and not good necessarily.
Like financial stress at the beginning of my business, scarcity. I learned how to develop inner resourcefulness. And I think if there's anything that I can say about entrepreneurship, it's having an inner resourcefulness, not resources, resourcefulness, my ability to turn nothing into something. That's resourcefulness. I have learned how to create nothing into something because I went through contrast and still do.
My favorite people on the planet are open to contrast. It will make me weep right now. They look at contrast differently. They don't think it's perfect. They don't pretend that life is perfect, as in high vibe all the time. They don't pretend bad things don't happen. They know they do. But the way that they respond to it is still loving, still open to life, resourceful, wise, loving. These are the values that really resonate with me.
And what's interesting is, just as a sidebar for all you coaches and mentors and creators who are listening to this episode, what we're really talking about is actually going to help you build resonance with your people. No one wants to be gaslighted into high vibe. They want to be met in their humanity and not be stuck there.
Some of my clients, I think what really resonates about what I do and how I show up as a coach is I will meet them in the depths of whatever they're feeling. And it's not wrong. This is the gray zone. I also know they don't have to stay there. Sadness, grief, loss, frustration, despair, powerlessness, anger, all these things that are real human emotions and valid human emotions. I meet them there. And it's like a wave.
It comes, you feel it, and then it lets go of you. And then you're back to moving through life. It's not something that you want to try to get through as fast as possible. It's something to really meet within yourself. Knowing the whole time you are choosing it and you're the conscious creator of it takes your power back. It's just a different experience. It's a different experience to grieve when you're choosing it versus trying to avoid it until it just overwhelms you.
Or sadness when you're trying not to see the sad thing, and then it just overwhelms you and takes you out. We're choosing it. We're literally choosing the human spectrum of emotions on purpose. I think it's what we came for. I think it's what makes us resonate with other humans. I think it's why I'm not afraid of AI. AI can't really have empathy. It can articulate things really well, but it can't have empathy.
It can't look you in the eyes and be like, I see you. I know you. I'm here for you. I'm with you. Not really. And so I think if you're a coach, opening yourself up to this other side of the emotional spectrum is so important so that your clients can feel you in your marketing. They can feel you in your content. You are a multi-dimensional human being. You are not a robotic version of you in a vacuum. So now you have some distinctions.
If you are marketing, do you want to be someone who's perfectly controlled like a robot in a vacuum? Or do you want to be open to the full spectrum of life, and you know how to get through it, and you know how to create what you want in it? Not in spite of it, but in it. This really means a lot to me. And hopefully I'm sharing how I see it because none of this, to me, makes any of us a victim of circumstances.
Doesn't mean that there's not victims in the world. Doesn't mean that you yourself haven't been in victim situations where someone took advantage of you or did something wrong to you. That is true. But the victim consciousness, you don't have to carry with you. You can choose to respond. You can choose what you believe. You can choose how you show up in your life or your business or your relationships.
And that's good news. I also think this is one of reasons that I'm drawn to more spiritual type work, even though I'm a business coach. Then I operate more on the mental, spiritual side of business and life coaching because I do life coaching, of course. A lot of business is life coaching, as my clients will be laughing about. Because it's true. We have to look at this other side of the spectrum. And business has ups and downs.
Business has contrast, obviously. And who we're being in the contrast, I think, is everything. So the metaphor that I was giving a client last week that I think is helpful for contrast is like, when you pick up a stick, you pick up both sides. And so if you pick up a business, you pick up two sides, which is like freedom and autonomy on one side. And because of the freedom and autonomy, no one's giving you a paycheck.
There's a lot of predictability built into it. If you pick up the stick of a career in a corporate position, you might pick up the stick of a steady paycheck, but you also might give up freedom and autonomy to work for someone else. And obviously, there's varying degrees of each of those realities. So when we pick up the stick, we're picking up the contrast. So you just have to know very clearly that you are choosing it.
By me choosing to be an entrepreneur, I'm picking up the stick of freedom and autonomy, but I'm also picking up the stick of like, no one's giving me a paycheck. I create that for myself. So I'm not a victim to it. I'm choosing it, even though the contrast is there. So we choose contrast. We choose to pick up the stick with both ends. And that makes us a creator. This is something that I've walked with for a long time.
I have been on calls with clients that have made me cry because of horrible circumstances, terrible circumstances that are so hard. There's nothing to be said that it's not hard. It is hard. And they get to choose how they walk with it, their response to it. They might cry. They might give themselves time to just grieve. They might walk, literally walk with it for miles. Like they literally go on walks and just hold it.
And they still show up for their life and they still show up for the business and they keep going and they keep figuring it out one step at a time. A lot of times, I actually gave this metaphor to a few of my clients. It's not like we're trying to arrive at a destination. A lot of times as coaches, we mistakenly believe that that's what people hire us. And I think that's part of it, right?
Like there's a destination that you want to arrive at, whether it's weight loss or a business goal or a relationship goal or a status goal or a net worth goal or a weight goal or a fitness goal, like whatever. We have these destinations. But what I've found in the clients that I've worked with for years, it's more about navigation. So the example that I gave my clients was like, let's say you're in a sailboat.
And a lot of coaching is like, I will help you sail to an island, a specific destination. But a lot of my clients find me because like they've realized that no matter what island they're going to go to, what they really want is someone on the sailboat with them who will help them navigate choppy waters, smooth waters, terrifying waters, dark waters, unknown waters. Like they just want someone to be there with them as they're going through it.
And I think that's a very different kind of coaching because there might be destinations involved. There might be places they want to get to, but it's more about the relationship that I am having with them, helping them decide who they want to be, how they want to create, how they want to handle contrast, how they want to communicate hard things with their loved ones, how they want to feel about their life, how they want to think about different things as they arise.
And so that's another contemplation for you coaches out there. It's more about navigation. And destination is always going to be a topic of conversation because we're humans and we like to achieve things. But the navigation is what I found the most meaningful. Navigating things that don't necessarily have a destination. What's your destination with parenting? What's your destination with your business?
You might have many destinations, but like what's the ultimate destination? This is why I love Simon Sinek's work around the infinite game. There's some games that you play as a finite game. When I play basketball, right, it's a finite game. There's gonna be a winner and a loser. There's gonna be a final score on the scoreboard. But marriage, business, parenting, your life's work, your creative work, there's not really a final score.
The whole point is to keep playing the game. How do you win marriage? You keep playing the game of marriage. How do you win business? You keep yourself in business. How do you win personal development? You keep developing yourself. How do you win spirituality? You keep your relationship with the divine as an important part of your life. That's it. It's an infinite game. It's navigation. It's not something you complete.
It's something you keep doing. And that's a lot of life. And so I think for a lot of us it's not about how do I arrive. Grief. How do you arrive at grief? It's like that's not really the right way to think about it. It's like how do you navigate grief? How do you navigate infertility? How do you navigate loss? How do you navigate addiction? Maybe not yours but maybe a loved one's. How do you navigate someone else's choices?
How do you navigate world hunger? How do you navigate war in the world? That's directing you back to yourself because it's about your experience and how you choose to see it and choose to believe and choose to show up in your life. Being a creator. And so there's a lot of nuance here because it's not one thing. It's not one clear answer. It's in the gray zone. There's various you know shades.
Not to be pointing to the movie that I did not see or the book that I did not read. But it's just an expression. A variety of different ways to approach it. And I'm not nervous about the coaching industry because people need help figuring out what works for them. What response. What choice. What conversation. What perspective works for them specifically. Not in general.
Not as a standard but as a very personalized way of living their life. Which again is why the gene keys resonate so deeply because it's like one of a kind. Your profile is yours and there's different sequences and different gene keys and numbers that like resonate with you specifically that I love. Human design. Enneagram. All these things are tools to help us point us back to ourself but at the end of the day you are one of a kind.
It doesn't matter if a tool or a resource or a modality or a life philosophy works for someone else. The question is is it working for you? Is it working for you in your day-to-day experience? Is what you're believing, what you're doing, what you're thinking, how you're operating giving you the experience of life that you want? And like I said that doesn't mean no contrast. It means experiencing contrast the way that you want to experience contrast. For me it's like having room to be sad.
Having room to be in my angsty emo phase sometimes is like an important part of my life. Like I was thinking about this the other day like sometimes I want to listen to like sad Taylor Swift songs and I cry in the car and like I want to feel it. Sometimes when I see like a beautiful sunrise I let tears flow because it's so beautiful. The other day like I saw a dead animal on the side of the road and like I let myself be sad.
Or when loved ones do things it's like it's okay to be angry. I don't want to be happy about this. I want to be angry and that's okay. Doesn't mean it's forever. It's understanding the waves. I will have waves throughout the rest of my life and I'm good with that. Waves of different emotions that come and go because that's not who I am. My emotions are not who I am but I do want to experience it.
Who I really am came to experience those waves. Who I really am came to create. To co-create. To experience life in this full spectrum of it knowing that I'm a creator. Not the controller. I'm not the master puppeteer. I'm like puppeting everyone in my life to do exactly what I want them to do. That's not what I'm talking about. But at the heart of hearts is I'm controlling me. I'm deciding my experience. Choosing it consciously.
Choosing to be sad. Choosing to be happy. Choosing a perspective that uplifts. Choosing to grieve. Whatever it is. Like the full range. I'm here for it. Because what's funny is like when you allow the waves eventually you trend up which is something that we've been talking about in quantum play. Gentle trending. Trending up on the scale happens naturally as we process our emotions. As we submit to the human experience.
As we feel what we feel and let it move through us. Because that's not who we really are. And so these are my contemplations. These are my thoughts. There's some heavy stuff here. But sometimes life is heavy. And that's part of the experience too. I think one of the things that the Gene Keys has helped me with is a lightness of mentality going through it. That I'm not so weighed down by life even as I'm thinking about experiencing.
Hearing about hard things. Sad things. There's a lightness about it because of who I really am. It's a remembering of who I really am. So I hope this was helpful. If you're in it right now I'm with you sister. I've been in it too. Sometimes I'm more in it than others and sometimes I'm on the high flying disc and all of it is okay. All of it is welcome. You're here for the human experience of it all. And this is a game of navigation not arrival.
And that's the game. That's the game of life. That's why we're here to play it. And business is a part of that. So you can apply this to business as well. Thank you for the question. Thank you for being here for this conversation. This is some of the conversation I will say. The duality and the life stuff.
Holding with my clients is something that is one of my like highest honors and privileges and I'm very grateful to do it. So for those of you who are listening who are clients thank you. For those of you who are on the threshold and are curious about working together I have a couple spots for private coaching this summer. You can go to www.itsambersmith.com forward slash summer.
It's like a one-on-one light where you just want some support. You want to think through summer, your business and all of it. So you can head there to find out more. And as always I'm just a message away. You can shoot me a message on Instagram @itsambersmith. Or you can find me at www.itsambersmith.com. All right. Take care. I'll see you soon.
