Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. I'm excited to be here. I am in a vortex of change and new possibilities. I'll be sharing more about that throughout the podcast, but I'm really glad to sit down with you and center myself to connect with you to do the work, you know. I read a quote today that I knew I wanted to talk about on the podcast.
It was from a subset I was reading and she said, the edge is where multiple identities try to survive at once. And I had to write it down. You know, it was like one of those lines that I'm like, ooh, like, yeah, the edge is where multiple identities try to survive at once. And I know for me, I definitely feel like I'm at the edge. In fact, I just am wrapping up Potentiality Protocols.
At the time you listen to this, I will have already wrapped it up, but Potentiality Protocols was an event I did on Substack, which will be living on my Substack. So if you didn't participate live, you can access that at any point. So whenever you're listening to this episode, just find me on Substack, the way of abundance, Amber Smith, and you can do Potentiality Protocols. Anyway, on day one, I shared this quote about coming to the edge, right? Come to the edge, but we're afraid. Come to the edge.
They come to the edge, and he pushes them, and they fly. And I use that as an invitation for so many of my clients. You know, so many of my clients find me at their edge, where multiple identities are trying to survive at once, whether it's an old identity of lack and scarcity and frustration and force and working really hard and high demand and doing things a very linear, logical way, and they're stressed, and they want to do it different. Or business isn't working, but they see the possibility.
Or they want to do things from potentiality, and they're at the edge, so there's this other part of them that knows it can be more magical than it is. It can feel easier than it is. It can feel more synchronistic than it is. And these two identities are living and trying to survive at once. And at some point, we fully fly into the new identity. And I've made those kinds of jumps myself.
I know many of you know exactly what I'm talking about, where we let an old identity go in favor of the new one. And that's like right where I'm at. And there's tension there. So today I'm recording this episode. This will be my last podcast in this house that I've been living in because we're moving. And I see this possibility. The house that we're moving to is elevated. It's beautiful. It's very well designed for our family.
There's a feeling of expansion that I haven't experienced before in that house, which I'm really excited about. But it is interesting because as I'm moving, my old things, right, my old clothes, my old computer, my old, you know, shoes, my old kitchen stuff, our camping stuff, and the girls' toys, and their clothes, and their furniture.
And as I'm moving my old stuff, it's so interesting to feel this tension between who I have been and who I'm becoming. And that's life, right? We're always in that process. But I think with an event like a move, it's even more obvious, old versus new. And so I'm feeling this tension of who I was and who I want to become, what has been experienced in the past versus what is possible in my future.
And here I am standing in this present moment, anticipating, reflecting, excited, and kind of sad, right? It's like a very bittersweet move because we love where we live right now. And I think so many of you listening know exactly what I'm talking about. Even if you're not moving houses, you know, you're on the edge and there's tension between an old identity and a new identity, whether that's an old identity regarding business, or finances, or a relationship, or a fitness goal. Like, it doesn't matter.
Because growth and evolution over a lifetime is probably a value that you have, or you wouldn't be drawn to a podcast episode like this. And so when I think about what it's going to take for me to sacrifice kind of like the theme of what we've been talking about recently, sacrifice this old identity for the sake of the new one, not in a way of like, she wasn't enough, because I don't think that. Like, I think I've always been enough.
And I think who I've been up to this point is a beautiful, expressed version of me. And once you see a possibility, and you know, it's for you, like, you can't unknow that. And there will be tension until you let yourself transform, let yourself jump, I guess, or shift into that parallel universe of self to quote Frederick Dodson, this self universe, this whole universe of self that you are aware of, new possibilities.
For most of my clients, it's related to business, or the way that they show up in the world, or the way that they interact with money, the way that money gets to work for them, the way that client creation happens, the way that marketing happens, the way that they relate to their business and their life's work.
It becomes like this spiritual path almost, where like, they're living their higher purpose, and then things start to become more synchronistic and miraculous, because they're living in harmony and in flow with life, right? And so like, when you live in harmony with the universal laws of the universe, things start to happen beyond your control. And it's not about control, it's about creation.
And so that's where I find myself today is just reflecting on how I even got here. You know, I think so much of my journey has been about both learning and unlearning, unlearning things that I learned about myself, that weren't true. So like, as an example, I was just thinking about this, because some of my sisters sent me some like, old family videos, you know, of us when we were kids.
And I was like, painfully shy, like, so shy that like, if I had to call someone on the phone, I would cry or like have an anxiety attack. I have this one distinct memory of like, me and my family are sitting in a Taco Bell. And I had eaten a small burrito and I wanted another one. And my mom was like, okay, like, here's a couple bucks, go buy one. And like, I couldn't breathe. I couldn't go up and order myself a burrito because I couldn't breathe. Like, I was so nervous, so shy.
My sister took the money and went and bought it for me. And many of you don't know that version of me, because like, I have done so much self transformation work, and as have you in your own way. Now I have a podcast and I coach people and I get on video and I create content for a living. I had to like, let go of stories and identities, you know, and I've lived on the edge many times.
And it's interesting, a lot of times the edge is physically represented. So that could be where you live, it could be the clothes you wear, it could be how you support yourself, it could be a coach you hire, it could be a place you travel to. For me, it's been masterminds and coaches I've worked with, it's been places that I've visited, either for business or personal.
It's been like right now, moving houses, moving cities, moving states, I've done all three. And every time it's like the outer is reflecting the inner, as within, so without. Even this morning, I was at the new house because we're moving and I'm literally recording this in the middle of moving, I mean, not literally in the middle, but in this time window of my life.
And I wanted to record this for myself to get clarity, but also just like to invite you in to kind of experience this with me because I'm at the new house, I'm feeling elevated, but like there's work to do. You know, I'm like rearranging my office, my mom's working on my kitchen. We're like organizing the toys and finding where things go. And I'm like, every once in a while, I'm like, slow down, slow down, like let's pre-pave this whole experience. It's so easy to get lost in the tasks.
But when we're making a transformation like this, when we're at like a moment in time, I think I'll remember for the rest of my life, it's like a marker. I can look back on this moment, this window as like, this is the moment that changed everything. And actually in potentiality protocols, that's like one of the days I invite you into that prompt. This is the moment that changed everything.
And we have these opportunities to slow down time and to experience that. And I'm like having one of those moments right now that like, I'm literally living in a window of time where I will realize this was the moment that changed everything. And I've had these before, you know, almost feels like deja vu, but it's not deja vu when you're a conscious creator, because you are remembering something that you're aware of.
It's almost like a way, a portal, you know, it's like a way of seeing what you're creating. And I had that moment this morning and having it right now where it's like, these moments matter. Who I'm becoming matters. And I'm feeling the tension of who I was and who I'm becoming. And all of it is wrapped up beautifully in this present moment. You know, my daughter's birthday was this weekend. She turned eight.
My oldest is going to turn 10. My youngest is going to turn six this year, like 10, eight and six. Like I don't get this time back. And Tegan, my oldest, she's turning 10. And she's like, mom, like I'm halfway through my childhood. And I like, I'm crying right now. I'm like, it really made me pause. I'm like, oh my gosh, like, yeah, you're halfway through your childhood. We're not even in the teenage years.
And I know that that changes things. But of her living under my roof, you know, she's halfway done. I'm the youngest I'll ever be today. Today's the youngest my husband will ever be, you know. And I think we have these slices of time where we can like really tune in and remind ourselves what this is all about and what we're creating.
I think about the idea that we can't predict or control our future, but we can create it by how we create our days, by learning how to master like the present moment. I don't take it for granted. Like, I'm so grateful that I found the coaching industry. And even though it's cringy, like the self-help industry, you know, all these authors and mentors and teachers that have helped expand my mind and slow down time for me so I can feel my life more so that I don't just jump into the next identity.
I think I was so in a hurry in the beginning of my business to like get there, you know, to get to the milestone, to get to 100K, to get to a million, to get to fully booked or whatever. And now I'm just like, no, like, I just want more of what I already have. And the tension I feel between my identities at the edge, right, of like where I am and who I'm becoming, who I've been and where I want to go, that's how I'm always going to feel because growth is a value that I live every day and probably so do you.
And so there is never going to be a destination where you like arrive except for the present moment, being home in your body, being home in your mind, finding a way to feel the peace of the now. And I'm not the only person that says this. You know, this has become almost like a cliche because so many people teach this idea of like the present moment. And I guess I'm going to add my voice to the things that I've said in the past.
And I wrote a whole book called Quiet Wealth, which is like creating what you want without sacrificing what you have. And that has been my mission from day one. Have I been perfectly talented? No. But I started my business with two babies. Now I have three, a two year old and a baby. And I look back on that time and I was so hungry to get to success, you know, like whatever that means.
Success and failure are both illusions, but that's a story for another day. To success, right? That like I did not enjoy these windows of time where I felt the transformation happening in real time, like I'm feeling right now. I didn't give myself the chance to witness my growth. And so I want to invite you to slow down the way that you're experiencing time and to stop being hungry for whatever is on the horizon.
You know, I'm all for scanning the horizon and looking for what's and creating from potentiality and possibility that will always be part of my message. But I think the paradox is like those things can be true at the same time as enjoying your life, slowing down to like part with this old identity and embrace the new identity, part with the old frequency and embrace the new frequency. That's what I'm feeling today.
And this beautiful moment, this slice of time, the present moment, you're never going to be this version of you that you are today and that you get to be with this version of you instead of trying to get to the next one. And the tension that you feel is actually just an invitation to slow down and be. That's what I'm feeling today. This is the message for me as much as it is for you, right?
Like I'm half saying this to myself, but letting you kind of tune in and take what you need from this episode, too, because the world is moving so fast with A.I., with technology, with the Internet, with the noise, time is moving so fast. And actually, one of the things that me and Wesley are excited about is where we're moving feels a little slower than where we live right now.
Where we live right now is beautiful and amazing and a little bit of hustle and bustle in our town because it's growing and there's a lot of businesses coming and a lot of new construction and a lot of buildings being built around us. And where we're moving to is a little bit slower. And I'm excited to experience time a little more slowly. I'm not trying to get anywhere.
I think one of the reasons that I love blending conscious creation principles, spiritual principles with business is because so much of business is about building what's next, getting to the milestone. And I think there's a huge disservice that we do to ourselves and to our loved ones. We almost like try to escape our now for the sake of a better future. And you'll miss your whole life doing that. I say that from experience.
And I say that because I coach people like this, where it's like we have to slow down and experience it or you're going to miss it. And you will get there realizing it will feel like here. There is no there. And so we have to slow down and feel the tension of the edge, especially for people who grow. Right. And the tension isn't something to avoid. I think we want to escape it because it feels unfamiliar. It feels uncomfortable.
Or you lean right in and you get your journal out and you meet yourself or you get a podcast mic out like I'm doing and like hit record. The edge is where multiple identities try to survive at once. And you embrace that you're at the edge and you make the leap. You make the decision. Yes. But you also wake up in the morning and you look out your window and you look at your kids faces. This is the youngest they're going to be today.
Even if you have adult children, this is the youngest they're going to be today. This is the youngest you are going to be. And you look in the mirror and you let yourself feel love for this version of you. The future version of you is not better than this one. It's just different. And you get this slice of time to be with the tension of your edge. And there's no rush. Progress is going to happen. Growth is going to happen.
Expansion is going to happen. But you don't need to rush it. I think for so many of us, there's this low key competition with an ideal or with other people or with our future self. I was actually on a call last week with an amazing coach. And I could tell she's kind of caught up in trying to get to the next iteration of her business, trying to catch up with coaches she sees on the Internet, which I've been there. No judgment for me. I get it.
It's so easy to judge ourselves and to compare ourselves. And we rob ourselves of the opportunity of experiencing this moment in time, this iteration, this version of your business, like be with her for a little bit, be with your business for a little bit and celebrate and rejoice and have grace. This version of your business also won't exist forever.
And so I think there's so many things that we sometimes try to jump into the next thing. And that's going to take care of itself. What would it be like to just enjoy where you're at, to want more of what you already have? I knew I had made it in business when that's kind of how I feel like I just want more of what I already have. I love my clients. I love what I do. I just want more. I know that more isn't necessarily my job.
My job is to show up and to serve and to invite and to do my work in the world and to record the podcast and stuff. But the more, the more client, the more money, whatever will take care of itself and match for it, which is everything that I teach as far as like quantum play and mindset and energetics.
And so I just wanted to have this moment in time with you to be with where you're at, to celebrate where you're at, to make note of where you're at, to honor where you're at and not make it wrong, not make your present wrong, because the future is going to be better. And I know that that's easier said than done, because sometimes we really think the future is going to be better than where we're at.
And that might be true in some ways. I think of me driving my Yukon roading. And I've told that story before on this podcast, this old car that I used to drive. And I was like, oh, it's going to be so amazing when I have my new car. And, you know, it's funny because now I drive my car and I love my car, but I'm still driving on a road and there's a steering wheel and I'm going from where I was and getting to where I'm going, you know, and it's like, yeah, how I experience my life has nothing to do with the circumstances.
How I experience my life is absolutely about my emotional reality that I have learned to cultivate within myself, which is where I'm at today at the edge. What's the emotional reality of this moment? What's the emotional reality of this version of me that will never be this version again? My kids will never be this version of themselves again. Can I appreciate that?
And can I find the beauty of it without making myself wrong for also wanting more? And that's the paradox. You're allowed to want more. You're allowed to grow. You're allowed to build. Of course, as you guys know, I'm a huge proponent of that advocate for that. I want to fight for your dreams, of course. But having a dream doesn't make your current reality wrong.
And that's the beautiful thing is like both things can be true at the same time that you can love where you are and love where you're going. And when you have found your sweet spot of that, where you love where you are and you love where you're going, you can have ultimate peace of mind. You can let go of worry. You can let go of trying to control things and predict things and get to creating. And that's the fun part.
That's the expansive part. That's where you're free. That's what I want for all of us. Thanks for being on the ride with me. Thanks for participating. Thanks for your messages. Thanks for everyone who has cheered us on and celebrated the move with us. I appreciate you all. And I'll see you on the other side. The next episode, I'll be recording for my new office. So I'll meet you there. Bye.
