Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. I'm excited to be back with you as always. Spring is blooming and popping where I live in Utah. I've been really enjoying my tree outside. If you follow me on Instagram, I'm like taking a picture of the tree every day and like many times Voxing my clients from under the tree. It's such a vibe. And I love going on walks and just seeing all the trees just popping off with their beautiful flowers and I feel uplifted.
And so I'm excited to share what I've been thinking about and pondering. It's coming from actually like when this episode comes out, I will actually be at the Miracle Mind Retreat with my ladies of the Miracle Mind, which I'm so excited about. And as I've been preparing and thinking about how best to prepare for this weekend, I never like prepare exactly what I'm going to say because I like to do it in real time.
But the big theme, which is the title of this episode, which is old frequency, new frequency, that's the theme for the retreat. As we're in spring, I was just literally right before I hit record, I was thinking about how, you know, nature just models this to us, like the old frequency and the new frequency of winter to spring and then spring to summer and then summer to fall and fall to winter, right? Like old frequency to new frequency. And so life is not linear. Life is cyclical.
And when you kind of ponder that on top of this idea of moving from the old frequency to the new frequency, this is where we get that concept of life being like a spiral because it's a spiral up. And it reminds me of expansion because like, let's say I have this big giant tree outside my office and I was thinking about like, well, does this tree expand? Every year it's like a little bit bigger maybe.
But then I was thinking about how the blossoms and the seeds of the tree get blown in the wind and maybe somewhere out there that seed took root and like a new tree grew in its place, you know, and that's expansion. Even while this tree in my yard is rooted to the ground and has its own cycles of growth and I wouldn't say death, you know, but like in winter it goes dormant and growth is still happening under the surface, but on the outside, like there's no leaves, there's no seeds, no fruit. I've just been thinking about this for my clients, for myself.
What does it mean to leave an old frequency and enter a new frequency based on what we want? And one of the things that I have had to come to terms with in many of my clients'... this is our work is like sifting through contrast to understand what is the new frequency that I'm being invited to live at. A few weeks ago, I shared my experience with my coach and the mastermind that I'm a part of coming home from Florida.
I felt new and I've had clients tell me this too when they attend a retreat or we do work together, like they feel different and that's the new frequency. And I think life presents us with contrast so that we expand. We have this expansion built into us. This is different than like more, more, more at all costs. This is more of like what I love that Richard Redd talks about in The Gene Keys, which is the flow of prosperity.
And so he actually uses the word wealth and prosperity very differently. So wealth is like accumulation energy. Prosperity is flow energy. And so I love this idea of like flow, like this river of prosperity flowing through us. That's what I mean by expansion. It doesn't mean like accumulating more and more stuff. It means more lived life experience. It means more play. It means more creativity. It means more relationships.
It means more opportunities to serve, more ideas, more fun, more creation, more synchronicities. And a lot of times that does mean more money, more freedom, more choices, maybe more travel, maybe a nicer car. Like all of those things are a part of it, but it's not just to accumulate stuff. And so when I've been thinking about this old frequency, new frequency, life invites us to move into the new frequency.
And this is what's interesting is many of you listening to this can relate because a lot of your people in your normal life aren't like you. That's where I find myself. Like there's a lot of people in my day to day life, my neighbors, my friends. Obviously, I love them. They don't think like me. And so I get met with contrast, hard times, things that don't feel good, stress, whatever.
And I meet that with an awareness that I'm like, okay, what good thing is trying to make its way into my life? But I watch so many of my loved ones bump into contrast, things that they don't want. That's where they stop. Then the narrative becomes like, yeah, life's just hard. You know, life's a test. Life's a challenge. And this becomes the rhetoric that we hear at school, in jobs, in mainstream books. And just because it's mainstream doesn't mean it's the only way to live life.
Once I found entrepreneurship and spirituality and universal laws and all of these things, like I was on a client call today and she talked about like the truths that are always true, the things that are universally true, which I think old frequency, new frequency, expansion, law of rhythm is what we're talking about.
And so we're constantly being invited by life, by divine design, to see the old frequency where it's limiting us, where it's not serving us, where it's not reflecting who we really are or who we really could be. And we get invited by life to do the work, to adopt and anchor in and calibrate to the new frequency. There's this book that we read in House of Abundance. So if you're in House of Abundance, you know, like we read the book Outsmarting Reality, and that book is potent and amazing.
But one of the things that he talks about, the line that I quote a lot is like the addicting thing in the universe is frequency. Oh, what a line, you know? So our old frequency is literally addicting. And then law of attraction just keeps bringing us more of the same frequency, right? And so we get stuck in these loops where we say things like this is just how life is, not recognizing that we are just like living in the loop of our own frequency, our own thinking, our own feeling, our own expectations.
And so when we talk about moving to a new frequency, that sounds all nice and fun, but it is not, as many of my clients can like raise their hand and be like affirmative, you know, it's not always easy because we have these loops, both biochemical loops where it's like dopamine, endorphins, serotonin, oxytocin, that like literally biologically we get addicted to a frequency. If you haven't read the book Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza, amazing book.
The way we wire our bodies based on our beliefs, our thoughts, our expectations, our attention, literally becomes our bodily emotional reality, our frequency. And then it's addicting because that's what feels normal to us. And what we feel normal about is what we create. And so when I work with people on money beliefs, on business beliefs, on growing, on happiness, on joy, because like I do a lot of business coaching, but honestly, I do a lot of life coaching of deep fulfillment and satisfaction in life, in relationships, in marriage, in parenting.
I do business coaching too, but I do a lot of like my emotional reality work because the old frequency is so addicting and so compelling that it feels like this is just how life is. I know you're a weirdo because you know that that's on some level fundamentally not true. You're like drawn to a podcast like this where you want to a different reality. And for many of you, business is a vehicle to do that. But we have to have this conversation about moving from old frequency to new frequency. You can like read a book and start to understand it.
But to actually do the work is hard because like Nero says in the book Outsmarting Reality, it's like the most addicting thing in the universe. And so what you're up against is like forces that feel very difficult. And I don't mean that it's impossible, but you have to know what game you're playing and like what tools and practices are actually useful.
A long time ago, I came out with an episode that really resonated with people called Weaponizing Thoughtwork because sometimes you'll hear something like, oh, like just like think a new thought. And then we weaponize it against ourselves because now we are aware that it's our thinking and our frequency. So like any time you notice that you're not feeling good or like I was actually just working on this with the client, if you're in a low vibration, now you're like, oh, I can't create clients. I can't sell because I'm in a low vibe. It's like that's not helpful.
And that's not ultimately true. You don't have to be high vibe to create money. Like think about the world at large. Like is everyone high consciousness who's making money? No, they are at a frequency where money comes into their life regardless of circumstances, their personal circumstances. That's a different frequency than like, can you feel this? Like the old frequency is like I can only make money if I feel amazing.
And that's the way that you show up in life versus I can make money when I'm high or low. I can make money when I'm healthy or sick. I can make money when I feel great or when I want to hide. And then you take the actions and back that up with your beliefs and you set up your systems and you put out your calls to action and the way that you carry yourself in your life, that becomes your reality. And so frequency is not just like how you feel.
I mean, that's part of it, but it's also what you expect to happen. And so sometimes we'll reflect back what we're seeing, thinking like this is just the way business is. Business is just hard. How many times have you heard that? I've said it. But what's interesting is like as I've done the work, it's like, is that the story that I want to keep? Is that the frequency that I want to carry with me? So here's the real, I guess, like kicker is sometimes there's a compelling story that's useful in one phase of your life, like a frequency that works.
And then there will come a moment in your life where that story no longer is what you want going forward. I'll give you an example that I was working on with a client earlier this week. She had a story for decades of her life that like her value came from being able to do hard things. She got praised for it. People in her life admired her for it. She's amazing. And so this little frequency, little, the frequency came in that like I can do hard things. Right.
And so that's how she operated in the world. Well, she's in a different phase of her life now. She doesn't want it to be hard. She doesn't want to just have the capacity to do hard things. She wants to live in a different reality where things are joyful, where things come easy, where things work out, where there's synchronicities, where there's fun and play, just like a completely different reality. That doesn't mean that she makes her past self wrong.
And I think a lot of you need to hear this. Like we don't make our old frequency wrong. We can see why it evolved the way that it did, why we chose that energetic stance for life. So there was a time where scarcity felt very responsible to me. We're thinking about money in terms of it can run out felt responsible. And I needed to be careful with my money and I needed to budget and I needed to be careful about where I bought groceries from.
And as I started expanding my awareness and understanding and my skill set in business, that no longer was a useful frequency for me to bring to my life. And I became aware of abundance. We use that term abundance. So for me to move from the old frequency of lack and scarcity is responsible into there's always more of that came from money is an unlimited resource that is flowing into my life all the time. And it flows out, but it always flows in.
It's more circular than accumulative. And I like it that way. But I had to become a new person. You know what I mean? So like when I got back from the elevator retreat, I think I mentioned this, like I became very sensitive to my frequency and what was not a match. And sometimes we need these calibrations, right? These wake up calls where we're like, oh my gosh, like I am actually not okay with the old frequency.
I think this is one of the powerful parts about coaching and mentorship for people who are in this world, right? Is like a great coach can be like, that's old. You're not available for that anymore. And so sometimes we have to like let these old frequency bubble up and release pockets of these old stories, old expectations, old ways of being as we move into the new frequency. And so I think for a lot of us who have a history of people pleasing, have a history of trying to do the right thing, trying to be a good student, right?
You might listen to this podcast and it's like, you want the step-by-step instructions for how to do this right. And what I want to offer is there's not one single way to do this right. There's finding your way, your process, your evolution, which is one of the reasons that I love the Gene Keys as a technology, as a side note, just because it's so personalized, right? There's words and contemplations for you to move from old frequency to new frequency and the language that he uses, which is shadow to gift. But for some clients, it's like they need to meditate.
For some clients, they need to go on a walk in the sunshine. Some of them need like a wake-up call or like a physical experience. Some of us need to get out of our regular life. Like what I was explaining when I went to Florida, that was really useful to me. I think it's useful for a lot of people to get out of the norm so you can see your life different. Some of you guys need to like be around other people who are thinking more expansive than you.
Some of you need grace where it's like, okay, like you're doing it. You're making the leap from the old frequency to the new frequency. It's going to take grace to make that jump because you're human and patterns run deep and the old frequency is so addicting. We're going to default to it. Breaking the habit of being ourselves is not always this overnight thing. By design, right? We came for the unfolding of ourselves.
We came for the unfolding of our creations and like what our life is about. And so I think when you look at your life like a constant invitation to a new frequency, that's my question that I want to pose to you is what are you being invited to step into? What things are you no longer available for? That's a really potent question. I remember I've told this story to clients before back when my business was like a little baby business.
I remember hitting a zero dollar month when I was new, where I didn't make any money that month. And I remember in my core, I was like, I am not available for a zero dollar month ever again. And I've never had a zero dollar month since. And that was like in 2018. And so we have these moments where life invites us through contrast. A lot of times, and no one likes this part, but it's how we get clarity. Contrast creates clarity.
So what is happening in your life as far as contrast is concerned that you are no longer available for? Is it slow sales? Is it not having a working business? Is it not showing up on social media? Sometimes I work with clients like, I'm so tired of saying I'm going to start posting regularly, then I don't. It's like, yeah, because you're being compelled by that old frequency. Like being unavailable for the old frequency is like an energetic line in the sand.
Commitment, attention, spiritual grit, focus, devotion. All those words are like how we actually make the leap from old frequency to new frequency. Grace is also a word that I would throw in there, right? Because sometimes you're going to get it wrong. But what's interesting about a pattern is the moment that you become aware that you're in a pattern, you have changed the pattern.
So even if you're aware, and this is where I mentioned weaponizing thought work, is like if you notice that you're in a pattern and you layer on shame or frustration or guilt or judgment, you're just starting another pattern that you really don't want versus like, oh, that's interesting. I'm playing out a pattern that I really don't want to play out. That's curious.
That kind of talk, that light, playful talk is so useful because it gets you actually into the new frequency itself without being in judgment, without cementing the old frequency with more of the same, with judgment and shame and frustration. And so I'm going to leave you with this. What is the old frequency that you are now unavailable for? What contrast is showing up in your life so that you can have more clarity about what you do want?
And then what level of commitment do you need to cement that new frequency into the normal way of living? For me, it was like when I started studying wealth consciousness books and getting mentors and coaches and joining programs, like I immersed myself in it for a long time because I had to unwire stuff that took decades of my life to wire in. Many of you are the same.
And so learning to love the process, love the unfolding, love yourself through it as you're bumping into things that feel difficult, as you're bumping into old patterns, choosing to keep a light heart about it, choosing to tell the story of it's all working out. I got this. Choosing to the word that just keeps coming back to me is like grace for the process and to love the unfolding. Nothing has gone wrong between old frequency and new frequency.
There's sometimes like a bumpy ride because we're stabilizing a new reality. Try to have fun with it. Try to be light hearted about it. Get people in your corner who can help you do that. Something for you to walk with is like, what are you being invited by life to transform? What are you no longer available in terms of old frequency? How is contrast informing your clarity?
What is something that you don't want? And how does that help you know exactly what you do want? And then how can you become an energetic match for what you do want? That's the work. And so I'm going to pose that to you to walk with, to contemplate, to sit with, to journal about, to experiment with playfully. Keep it light hearted.
I think that's another pattern that makes this so serious, which is old frequency for a lot of you. Old shadow level frequency is like very serious. What would it be like to play? What would it be like to be creative about it? Light hearted about it? Have fun. Make it a game. What would be possible? Good stuff. Okay. I hope you're having an amazing week. I'll talk to you next time. Bye.
