Hey, you guys, before we jump in today, I wanted to kind of give some backstory to today's episode, which I'm really excited to share with you. I thought it would be really fun to introduce you to and have a discussion with the Quiet Wealth mentors who teach and coach inside my Quiet Wealth membership. So Quiet Wealth is a concept that I teach that I love. I wrote a book about it. And the reception of this idea was so powerful that I ended up starting a membership so that we could study it, coach on it, talk about it, have a community about it.
And so I am going to share with you in a second. I had all four of them, Megan Teerlink, Jillian Clothier, Jade Alexander, and Aubin Palmer. I had all of them come on to talk with me and have a discussion about Quiet Wealth, how they live it, the language that they use in their own life, which is all a little different, which I love, right, how it affects parenting, business, rituals and routines, traveling, homeschooling, like we cover all of it. And so I'm really excited to dive in so that, one, you can get to know them, two, so that you can get familiar with other ways of thinking about Quiet Wealth.
And I just think it was an awesome conversation. And so I'm really excited to share it with you. If you haven't joined the Quiet Wealth membership, I will link that in the show notes so you can check it out. It's a monthly membership where there is live teaching and coaching with me and the amazing ladies that I introduce you today on the show. Okay, without further ado, welcome to the Abundant Heart podcast. Let's dive into my conversation about Quiet Wealth with the mentors.
Amber: Okay, welcome back to the Abundant Heart podcast. I'm really excited to have my Quiet Wealth mentors on this call with me. We're going to have a discussion about quiet wealth. So all these amazing ladies that you're going to hear from today teach and coach inside the Quiet Wealth membership. And so I thought it'd be really fun to have them all on. Hi, ladies, to talk about how we live quiet wealth, our personal definitions of it and how we embody it, how we do it with our kids, with our businesses, with ourselves, with our spouses. Right. Like all of us have our own way of living it. And so for me, you know, when I wrote the book Quiet Wealth, I said it's creating what you want without sacrificing what you have. And so I think it's a beautiful combination of making progress, but being deeply rooted in gratitude for your life and being present. And so let's just start. Megan, let's hear from you. Hi, Megan.
Megan: Hi.
When you first heard or even now, like how would you talk about quiet wealth?
Megan: That's a good question. Okay, how I think of quiet wealth is I think of honestly like building and creating, but with a really stable nervous system, honestly, like where I feel at ease and I'm not constantly swinging over into like completely dysregulated and disrupted. And for me, that in my experience has been I like came up with some ideas. I'm like, okay, how do I create that stability so that I can hold sometimes these mantles that I want to hold? And for me, that's been through taking radical responsibility for everything in my life.
I was reading the book Way of Mastery, which Amber introduced me, but it said something like pierced my soul. It said, like, if you want to change anything, if you want to create anything, you have to take responsibility for everything. And so it's been really a powerful part of my experience with quiet wealth is just being willing to take like radical responsibility for my life and everything in it. And then the other side of that is creating habits and routines and rhythms that are for my well-being and maintaining those.
I think a lot of times we start working towards our goals or towards these desires or these dreams we want. We just let go of all the things that sustain us, you know, like movement and stillness, exercise, food and nutrition, like eating good for my body, like these simple things, getting sunlight. For me, living quiet wealth is keeping those things, not letting those things just go and letting those guide and lead me and fill me up so that I can just pour out to others and create these things that I want.
Amber: Can you think of a time in the last week or two that you're like, this is quiet wealth?
Megan: Oh, I've had a lot of these lately. In fact, okay, so the other day I was laughing. I told Jillian about this, but I woke up and like everything was good. I was just like, oh, my gosh, like part of quiet wealth is discipline. And I feel like I've been learning to discipline myself, like part of getting to who I want to become is learning to discipline. I've been really working on that. So like I woke up, my house was clean. The kids were up doing their morning routines the way that they were supposed to. I've been exercising.
I just feel so good. And then it was funny because this happens when you start, I think, tapping into this type of thing is my brain was like, you should get in a fight with your husband. Let's destroy this somehow, you know? And I had to be like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Like, how about we just hold space and containment for joy and like how good things can be? So I actually had that experience a week ago.
Amber: Yeah, it's amazing. Sounds like you hit an upper limit, which is a completely different conversation. I know. So good. Also, I think I want to like pull out some details because you live a very unique life. All of you ladies do. Walk us through like how you create quiet wealth on like a day to day basis.
Megan: Yeah. So I have found the balance between structure and I would say like open heart or like flexibility, I guess you could say, to be kind of monumental for my system. I used to want it to be so flexible. I didn't have to do anything I didn't want to do. And that didn't create quiet wealth for me. And then I would try, I would swing over into just extreme discipline. I'd be like, I'm going to do everything perfect, you know? And that wasn't quietly wealthy at all for me either.
But as I learned to implement habits and structure into my day and kind of create a frame for my day that allows also for flexibility and freedom, I feel like that's been like my sweet spot in all of this. So I guess I can tell you like my typical day I wake up, I do a morning routine and I do that every single day. That is one of those structures that I don't really mess around with because I can see the fruit of it. And so in my morning routine, I usually exercise. I mean, I have some like boring things. I make my bed, I do a load of laundry, and I unload the dishwasher. I do stuff like that. And then I have structure in that I do school with my kids because I homeschool.
And so I love that it's one on one time that I get to do with them and time with me and my kids. And we spend time together doing that. And that's a non negotiable for me three to four days a week, we do that. And then I leave my afternoons open. Like I want to go to the river and swim. I want to work on my podcast. I want to coach clients. I want to get on podcast like I leave it open. And I found that to be for me just so wealthy.
Amber: Just because you do this in the membership, you lead meditations, like what role does meditation play for you in cultivating like a quiet wealth life?
Megan: Yeah, there's so many areas. I would say number one is that I used to look around a lot at what everyone else was doing. And I would try to figure out what I should do based on everybody else's telling me on the internet, you know, do this, do this, do that. This is how you should structure your day and blah, blah, blah. And I've really been coining the phrase, keep your eyes on your own paper, put your blinders on. And so I've been just telling myself, keep my eyes on my own paper. And then that's where meditation comes in. It's like what is right for me.
And that comes for me through stillness and looking inward, rather than scanning around me and trying to figure out what's going on. So I use meditation definitely to make decisions and to figure out what is in alignment for me. In fact, yesterday, I taught a class in quiet wealth, and it was about making decisions. And that's what we talked about, like quieting all the noise, and creating space for new possibility, and choosing really intentionally what we want to put in that space, not what the world tells us. So that's one way.
And then the other way is I just feel like in our culture, in our society, that a finicky nervous system is pretty common. Because of all the reasons, I mean, we could go into that forever. But like just modern life, it could create a little ease for people. And so for me, meditation has been a huge tool in learning how to calm my physical body and calm my nervous system and just create a sense of stillness and get rid of the rush that I feel. I don't know why, but it was ingrained in me from the time I was young.
Amber: Yeah, I feel like quiet wealth is slow.
Megan: Yeah, easeful.
Amber: Did anyone have a question that came up for Megan?
Jillian: I don't think so. I just love your willingness to experiment. I think that is such a huge thing for me too, is allowing things to be temporal, is like these decisions that we make and for what this meaning is to each of us to shift and not create any permanence around it. I think that's part of it, right? And so I love that as you share, and because I've watched your journey and all of you, honestly, is like, we continue to recreate maybe this definition over and over and finding that alignment or that quiet wealth or that sweet spot is such a beautiful thing that there's no permanence to it, right? I think that you're such an incredible example of that.
Amber: Yes, I love variety. I will tell you that. Yeah, that it's not like this concrete, this is what quiet wealth means to me and I have to live this way every day for the rest of my life.
Megan: Yeah, it's so evolving. Don't you guys feel like that? Like, I feel like the way it looks, even like just a different seasons of life and different, like when I had my baby, quiet wealth to me was just doing nothing, like honestly, way less structure. But right now, I'm like craving that structure in my life. And so I love meditation for that reason, is like, I can listen and I'm not moving so fast for a moment, I can just quiet down and go inward. And one of my favorite little sayings is, when you want to escape, it's time to go inward. Like when you want to run, that's when you need to go in. And so I love to teach meditation because I feel like my best insights have come from anyone outside of me.
Amber: So good. Thanks, Megan. You said something, I was like, I know I'm going to ask Jillian about it because he said it's a sweet spot. And like, that's Jillian's term. So what's your sweet spot, Jillian? What's quiet wealth to you?
Jillian: Yeah, I love that these kind of both dropped in for us at the same time, which felt so cool when it happened last year. I think for me, quiet wealth is being really honest about the season of life that I'm in. I think that's the baseline of it is so often we try to pull a prior version of ourself into our current life. And when we can recognize like, this is the season that I'm in, and then maybe even borrow from a future version of ourselves and go like, what do you want to look and see when you think of this time?
And so for me, it's like where you take a look at the season of life that you're in, and you get really honest about what you want in this season and make yourself right for wanting it, knowing that like what your desires are are for you, and then allowing your days to align with that. And I think that goes back to what I was just saying is like really trusting that your desires are for right now. And you can pull that into your right now, and maybe a month or two or a year down the road, you're going to be in a new season of life and your desires are going to change.
And having the awareness to see that so much of what I've created, as I've done this work now for five years in my own life, and I DIYed it for many years before that, but with coaches for the last five years, really raising my level of awareness around seeing what I really want in this season and really aligning my days to bring that to life. And so many tools that I have created to support this is like creating really sacred rituals that allow me to check in on that voice. Like I think people that watch me on social are like, you literally live the same day over and over and over. And while I laugh when people say that, I'm like, there's some truth because the foundation of how I exist is very similar from day to day.
And it is actually what allows me to check in on that inner voice. I have a Sunday ritual. I have morning rituals where the actual point of the ritual is for me to go inward, for me to check in with myself. How am I doing? How am I feeling? Am I aligned with who I want to be today? And setting some intentions around how I want that to show up in my outer life. And so I think for me, it's like this sweet spot, this quiet wealth is where my outer world reflects back to me how I want my life to look and feel. So that's what it means to me.
Amber: Beautiful. Yeah. I was thinking about what you said about people like you live the same life every day and you're like, yeah, if you have the best day, wouldn't you want to repeat it over and over again?
Jillian: So good.
Amber: So good. How would you define sweet thought? Just because I think it's your unique flavor of quiet wealth, if that makes sense.
Jillian: Yeah. So I really think it's that. I think it's where like this feeling it's this place. I keep like playing around with like, is it a place? Is it a feeling? Yeah, it's both. Right. It feels to me like this temporary landing place, knowing that the circumstances are going to change in the season of life that I'm in. But it's a feeling this place where it feels like alignment to me. I'm like, I compare it to like a chiropractic adjustment, which is a funny comparison because I didn't start going to a chiropractor until like three months ago.
But the reason I say it is like when we're in alignment, it's like we breathe a bit easier. We stand a little taller. Things flow through us with more ease. And so it is this feeling that feels viscerally like deep alignment. It feels like this giant exhale. And when it's reflected back to you, I think is when you get this confirmation. I have a fun story from the other day is I went on kind of a solo retreat earlier this week and spent an entire day with this super like high by big energy coach. And I was processing for a whole day and I got home and I was so excited. And it really felt like it was all about me and my expansion and my business expansion.
And I got home and my daughter, Sadie, comes up and wraps her arms and legs around me. And she was like, Mom, I missed you so much. And I'm like, I missed you too, babe. And she's like, guess what? And I'm like, what? She's like, well, you were gone every morning. I went out and watched the sunrise and did my morning check in. And I am tearing like this week was great. It was so great. But this, this is it. This is why we do this. It was just so powerfully mirrored back to me in just that single moment. And I'm like, yes, everything that happened earlier this week was so incredible. But this is the sweet spot.
Amber: So good. Thank you for sharing that.
Jillian: Yeah.
Jade: I mean, I love that you talk about that sweet spot because something that I've been playing with recently is like being super present, like being in the miracle of now and the dreams I'm living out now in the life that I've created now, while also getting a clear vision of what comes next and holding that vision for myself. And sometimes it feels like you can kind of go back and forth between the two, but I really feel like quiet wealth is just that harmony of those two different concepts, holding space for all of it at once.
Jillian: Yeah, so true. And I think a powerful way to recognize this too, is to check in with yourselves about your desires for the future. And then ask yourself, like, how is this already true? How is this already real for me and experience it in real time? I love creating like future ideal days and future ideal weeks. And I like love making them like these ooey gooey stories about how I want to feel all throughout my day. And I did this recently, and I read it back to myself. And I'm like, everything you wrote is real right now. Let it be.
It's true right now, if you let it be. And it was like this powerful reminder that I think we are in the habit in this work of striving and looking to the future and making plans for the future. And that's beautiful. And if we can recognize how much of it is already true, and take that abundance and that truth with us, while we create more or better or expansion, that is the gift. Like that's the ultimate. So yeah, I love that view.
Amber: Yeah, one of the most, I would say, like a spiritual awakening moment that I had, I was reading a book by Michael Neal. And he's like, the future is not real. And I've heard that before, but for whatever reason, like the way that he said it really landed, he's like, it's just a concept in your mind. And so from that point, I like had to take a second, right? I was like, oh my gosh, this is true. How did I, you know, because future self is a tool that I had used, and I don't use that term anymore. I use version of myself, right? Like what you're saying is like, how is it already true? It's like, there's a version of me where that is real right now. And it's just being her. And that's the work.
Jillian: Yes. And seeing her. And I think she's probably already walking. We just have to actually open our eyes to her, right? Yeah. So good.
Amber: So good. Thanks, Jillian. Aubin, what's coming to you? Tell us about your quiet wealth. I know you use the word whole wealth. What I love is that everyone has their own language.
Aubin: Yes, I love it. I remember when you were first developing quiet wealth, I was thinking of quiet wealth and we worked together. So it was just fun to like compare as we were doing this. And then to be part of this group now has been so fun. But I use the word whole because I am like more of like a definition person. So I see like the parts of my life and having all of them as part of my wealth and seeing that wholeness. And then I am always whole. I am always complete. I am always wealthy. And I love working with people and helping them see that wealth isn't something you're reaching for.
It's who you are and seeing the wealth that you have and using that to see what else you can do and just always having that energy of enough and there's more, which is like abundance, right? When we talk about that. And so I love to like focus. I use the rhyme of self, health, wealth, meaning the money part, and relationships and looking at all those areas. And that's the whole wealth of seeing how am I fulfilled in each of these areas? And people get triggered by the word balanced a lot. And what I have come to see as balance in those four areas is to feel fulfilled in each of those four areas.
And so it's not that I spend equal time in all four or that they're 25% of my life each, right? We're breaking it by four, but that what matters to me in that, in my relationships, showing up for my husband, how am I interacting with my kids? Do I have money? What other money do I want? What do I want to create? How can I bring value to the world? What am I going to do with money? How is it a tool I'm going to use? How is my health? Am I taking care of my body?
Amber: I'm going to interrupt you because we're in an interesting place for you because you just have so much going on right now. I would love for you to share, like you're working out every day, you're in Mrs. Utah, you're a mom of three, you're running a business. How are you living in this season?
Aubin: Yeah, that's a great question because it's going back to what I'm saying of how am I fulfilling in each of these areas? So I have clear expectations of myself and that we were talking about this yesterday. I'm really good at getting stuff done and I'm still good at it. I don't even know how to teach it yet. I'm working on that. But if I say I'm going to do something, I do it. And I have this really high level of accountability to myself that just naturally if I say weights for 30 minutes and walking at least 8k steps, I do it. And it's just natural for me.
But learning to say like, what does health mean for me? And I love what Megan was saying of like, I'm not comparing to other people's health or body. I'm comparing to mine. Like what works for me? What do I need at this season? Even like Jillian was saying, and having that expectation and saying, okay, how do I fulfill with my children? And I do something similar to Megan, like I leave my afternoons open and more like that is not work time. They get home from school, that's when I'm going to have mom time.
And sometimes that's the uncomfortable mom stuff of helping them do chores. And sometimes it's fun and we go on an adventure. But I know I have that interactive time with them to build that relationship. And me and my husband schedule dates, like we have that just in our routine so that we know it's easy to like feel like roommates instead of married people. So we like to make that part of our lives and routine. And so just seeing that there's ways that I feel fulfilled in each of those areas. And it's on the daily, like you said, like I have a lot going on right now.
And I love it because I am excited to wake up every day and do it. And I know I have that whole wealth, that quiet wealth of this is the life I want. I'm not even like waiting for the future. I'm living it and it's so fun. And what gives that to me is knowing that it is enough. This is what I want. But I'm so excited because I know there's always more and that being enough right now and enjoying this quiet wealth every day is how I am going to keep growing and being more of who I really am and just enjoying it that way.
Amber: So good.
Megan: Something that you're saying, Aubin, and I just love this. I've been thinking a lot about this that I feel like in the Western culture, you know, there's so much compartmentalize. What is that word?
Amber: Compartmentalizing?
Megan: Thank you. Separating everything. Right. And so like I think a lot of times, especially for like business entrepreneurs and stuff, it's like, oh, I need to work on my business. And we don't realize that like working on our business actually might mean working on our relationship with our husband, because everything is like a web. Everything is so connected. So like I love what she's saying, like this whole wealth, because like, yeah, you can like fix your money, but you watch people who have great finances, but then struggle in other areas.
And they're not actually wealthy because it is so connected. Everything is so intertwined that if your relationships are poor, it's going to reflect in every other area of your life. And so we're all nodding our heads like I feel like all of us are like quiet wealth is recognizing that interconnectedness and really taking care of the whole being that is us.
Aubin: Exactly. I love how you said that. And that even breaks the stereotype because people often think like you have to choose between relationships or money. And I like to say, why? Why can't you have both? Why can't they support each other? Why not? Can being a mom make me a better entrepreneur and can being an entrepreneur make me a better mom, like believing that they all are connected and support each other, but going back to doing it your way? And that's one of my favorite things to help people see is don't do it how she did it, do it how you need to do it to create that whole wealth in your life. And that's how you will find your own success.
Amber: I love that. And to speak to what Jillian said with like, how is it already here? Like, how is it true that your relationships are already supporting your business? And how is it true that your business is already strengthening your marriage or enhancing your fitness or whatever and looking for how it already exists?
Aubin: Yeah. And keeping that like, I always tell people I make fitness goals for my business, because my best ideas for my business come when I'm on my walks outside like genius, brilliant breakthroughs, or if I run into a problem, and I'm like, okay, I could either talk to Amber this, because she's my coach, or I could go on a walk and find the answer myself. And I've learned to go on walks more and just find the answer myself. Because sometimes we just need to be in that part of our brain to just get those answers.
And so walking 8000 steps a day has been the best thing I've done for my business. And seeing it that way makes it fun, because then I'm not like, Oh, I should be on Instagram contacting people, or I should be making a new program. Like, no, I'm going on a walk for my business. And that just feels so good to have that energy when you're making intertwined goals that way.
Megan: I feel like right now I have like real life experience with this so much because honestly, I had a little download of this system of what we're talking about, like a visual of it. But on my walk the other day, that's where I had it. It was so good. It's for my business. But I've been doing 75 hard and it has impacted every part of my life positively. I can't even tell you like you would think like, Oh, working out for an hour and a half every day. I'm like counting macros and all these things would take away from my kids. But I'm watching it literally give so much to my kids. And so much to my relationship with my husband, and so much to me that I'm wanting to pour into my business again. And like, I'm just like seeing how just nothing is separate.
Amber: I love that.
Jade: I love that you guys are talking about this because this is something that's been really coming into my awareness as of late is like, the work is not always what you think it is. And like Megan, you talked about Western culture. And I feel like Western culture is a lot of like do you got to do do do and hustle, hustle, hustle, and then you'll get what you want. And it's really like the real work is in the being. It's in the being still it's in the being present. It's in the developing your full self. And then you'll still do you'll still take action. But you're coming from a whole different place. When you focus on the being first, and it will feel organic.
Megan: The actions just feel organic.
Jade: Yeah, easy and flowy, and they just feel aligned.
Aubin: And I love to tell people exactly what you were saying, Jade, that if you do it in that hustle energy, because I believe hustling is really the energy, not what you're doing, but the energy you're doing it in. That's what leads to burnout. And you think you're working for this quiet and time to rest and go on vacations and have all this money. And then you burn out and then you can't sustain it. Whereas if you just enjoy that thing you were working for, and just enjoy the quiet wealth while you build a business while you do it, taking breaks, enjoying your family, then you could do it for the rest of your life, you get to enjoy it every day.
And there's nothing you're working for, because you have it and you get to enjoy it. Because you're being that I have the wealth, I have enough, I am enough. What am I going to do with it? Instead of I have to do things to be happy, you just get to be happy, abundant, enjoy the life in quiet wealth, and then go do stuff with it. And it's just such a different experience. This is my favorite thing to say. It could be the same exact action and you will get completely different results because of how you're showing up with that energy of this is who I am. This is my quiet wealth. I'm going to go do stuff with it.
Jade: Yeah. And trusting that your desires are inevitable, that you just know that they are going to happen. And it's not from a place of lack of like, I hope it happens. I wonder when it'll happen. It's just, it will. And so I can live in this peaceful, abundant energy of just knowing that all of my desires are going to come to fruition. I already have everything I already want. It might manifest differently in the future. It might look different in the future, but it's already here. And we can just like sit in that all the time.
Amber: And I think people leave out what they want because we have 90 percent of what we want. You know what I mean? It's like a little sliver when I think about what I want in the future. A lot of it is like I want to hang out with my husband at night and I want to go on walks and I want to snuggle my kids. I want to pick them up. I'm like, I'm already doing that. Right. And so one of my favorite parables is like the fisherman and the businessman. Have you guys heard this one?
Like for those of you who haven't, who are listening to this podcast, it's like there's a fisherman in Fiji and like he's fishing and this businessman comes up and starts asking him questions. And he's like, well, you know, if you got like another boat and had another fisherman like you could start catching a lot more fish and make even more money. And he's like, why would I want to do that? And he's like, well, then you could buy like a third boat and then a fourth one have a fleet. And he's like, and why would I want to do that? He's like, because then you could buy like a huge ship. And like, you know, he like keeps doing it.
He's like, okay, and then what would I do with that money? He's like, then you could fish whenever you want. Right. Beautiful island and fish. And he's like, what do you think I'm doing right now? I'm like, that's quiet wealth. Is knowing why you're doing what you're doing on purpose. Right. Like I think a lot of times, especially if you're very ambitious, it can you tune out the 90 percent of everything that's working and looking at what's not. And it's like, no, like quite all this. Look at all the things you already have that you want.
Megan: I was thinking, well, every single one of you guys were talking like this thought has come to my head so many times. The main pillar of quiet wealth is an abundant mindset, which makes sense for Amber's Abundant Heart podcast, you know. But I would say seeing in the present moment what's good. I mean, Amber just read us before we got on this call a post about perspective of your 90 year old self talking to you. And we're all crying when we were listening to it.
Amber: Can I read it?
Megan: Yeah, you should. But I'll cry again.
Amber: Okay, first let's hear from Jade and then I'll read it and we can cry together and everyone can hear us sniffling. It'll be great. Jade, you have a very unique story about quiet wealth that I want you to tell by lifestyle design. So take it away.
Jade: Yeah. Also, I really appreciate that you're going to wait till I'm done because I was like, oh, no, she's going to read. I'll read after. Like a mess, an emotional mess while trying to talk. Yeah, I've already felt like big emotions while just listening to everybody talk. And what you were saying about just that fisherman, he's like, what do you think I'm doing right now? I'm already doing that. That struck me so hard because that's I feel about my life right now. Like when we get emotional talking about it, but I'm living a life right now that I didn't even know was possible a couple of years ago. I didn't know that people could live like this.
So for reference, my family and I, we've been traveling full time for like the last it's been over 18 months, but we traveled all around the United States. We said we were only going to do a year and around month eight, we just knew that it was going to be more than a year, that that was not enough time for us. And we lived in Airbnb a month at a time in different cities and different states, just getting to know people from all over the country. And then we went up to Canada and we went down to Mexico and we were only going to be in Mexico for a few months. And we just felt really strongly, like this is where we're supposed to be right now.
And so we moved to Mexico and we're just having these adventures. And for so long, I judged my life and how it looked next to other people's. And I was beating myself up because I wasn't reaching goals. I thought I was supposed to be reaching and I just was never getting quote there, wherever I thought I was supposed to be. And one day I just realized I didn't even want all of that. I didn't even want what everybody else was going for. I wanted something very different. And I had no idea how to make it happen. Like initially we were like, oh, let's move to another country. But that had a lot of red tape.
Then we're like, let's do RV living, which also had a lot of red tape. And I just started to, instead of trying to cognitive think or logic my way into how do I make this happen? I just remember feeling so frustrated that like, oh, I have this deep desire and I want it to happen. And I don't know how to make it happen. And I just like poured my heart out to God. And I was like, show me the way, like, show me how to make this happen. My desire is good. And that day, literally that day, somebody was like, have you thought about living in an Airbnb? That had never occurred to me before. And it was like, all of a sudden it just felt so right. It was so easy.
My travel life has not been easy necessarily. There's been a lot of challenges. There's been a ton of growth, but it has come with ease because I'm living aligned with my desires and I'm being in the miracle of it. So I feel like I'm in that space that I was talking about before where I'm living deeply in the miracle of like a dream fulfilled and soaking it all in while also starting to feel those stirrings of like, what's next? What's possible? I've created something I had no idea was doable and it's so doable and it's amazing. So what's next?
But all of that was possible because I knew how to slow down and I was building my skills of simplifying my life, my time, my mind, so that I had more space to hear God's whispers and to hear my own wisdom and my own desires come out. And I could actually hear what I wanted and hear what my wisdom was telling me. So yeah, I have like pinch me moments almost every day when I homeschool my kids as well, like Megan. And I have a lot of moments where I'm just there with my kids and I just see them. I really see them. We're not rushing around. I can just be there and witness. They're like miracles.
You know, I get to see that and I get to go snorkeling on a random Monday just because we wanted to and because we've created that life for ourselves. And the other day my dog woke up earlier than normal and I wasn't even mad about it. I was excited because it meant that I had more time to sit in stillness and to listen to inspiration. And to me like that stillness of like being able to see the miracles, feel that deep fulfillment and gratitude, and then receive inspiration for more aligned decisions and like creating a more aligned life. That to me is the essence of quiet wealth. So random.
Amber
I love that story that you just shared about waking up early and like that's my definition of quiet wealth. It's like most people don't wake up happy and I wake up and I'm like let's go. You know, I love my life. We have a joke. My little four-year-old went through a phase where she's like this is my dream life. And I recorded a whole podcast about it. It's actually one of the most downloaded episodes because I think it catches people like this is my dream life. That moment when you woke up and you got more stillness and you know what I mean? You're like this is my dream life. That's quiet wealth to me.
Jillian: I think something you said Jade that I think has been like so resonant is how many of us on here because this is the power of this work exist in spaces throughout our day where we're like man this is even better than I could have imagined. It's that lens. It's that view. And like Megan to your point about like doing something like 75 hard and believing it's going to lead to one thing and having it lead to something completely different. Like when my husband and I did 75 hard I was like mental physical. That's the promise. It literally flipped our marriage on its head in the most incredible way that I never could have imagined. Amber actually knows this story.
I have a white chair in my office that I had this vision of buy this chair. You're supposed to have this chair. And the vision in my mind that I had created was like I'm going to record a podcast in this chair. And I think a podcast is coming but I'm not even sure if it's going to be in this chair. But what this chair has turned into is the place that my kids walk into my office and see me pursuing my dreams. I welcome them to come in here whenever I'm working and I love the idea that I will stop what I'm doing and I will turn to them. Now they call this the chair.
And this is where like the other day my son Jay said to Sadie you just need to go sit in mom's chair and talk to her about it. And so I could have never dreamed that the idea that I was attached to when I bought this chair was to create something for my business. But what it has become is the place that I connect most deeply with my kids. Like that's the miracle. That's the following the desires and trusting and being in faith that it's always working even if it's working in a way that we could have never imagined.
Amber: I love that. Jade is there anything else you wanted to add before I make you cry?
Jade: No I'm ready. I want you to read it again.
Amber: Okay because it's just so good. So I actually just started following her because like I don't know how I found this like I love when I get things and I'm like this was meant for me today. She's rachel.pol on Instagram and now you guys can go find this post. And it was inspired by someone else so you can read the post and find out who the original person was. I know IP is a big deal. Okay here we go.
“I'm 90 years old but I woke up today in my 32 year old body. I could hardly believe it so I leapt out of bed and ran outside to feel the warm sun on my face and soft grass beneath my toes. I played with the dogs until they laid down to nap and gave hannah cat so many scratches. Oh how I've missed them all these years. I went for a hike I used to love so much and wondered why I hadn't done it more often when I could. The trail was hard but I felt strong capable and free. All of a sudden my phone rang and it said mom.
Then I started bawling when I heard her voice. I saw myself in the mirror after a dip in the ocean and wondered why I ever wasted time feeling insecure about my flaws when I could be living. Why I thought I wasn't beautiful, worthy, why I wanted to take up less space. I painted for a few hours and my hands didn't shake so I was able to capture all these precious details. We had friends over for dinner and moved our dining room table out to the porch because life is a special occasion. I took photos today where I looked far from perfect but I kept all of them in my camera roll because perfect isn't the point of capturing memories.
As we watched the sun go down I was overwhelmed with gratitude because at 90 I don't know how many days I have left on this earth. I held on to everyone for as long as possible before drifting off to sleep knowing this was all a dream. A reality I would do anything to go back to when I woke up in my 90 year old body again. Because when I was younger I was so vibrant and yet I lived distracted. Caught up in what to do next, my career, on worrying what other people might think, on scrolling, feeling behind, on not being brave enough to change.
I wasted so many precious hours trying to be good enough, to be pretty enough, to cling to who I once was instead of focusing on the little moments before me. But now at the end I know the magic of life is in being here right now and that we must waste as little of this as possible because none of this is guaranteed and we will lose everyone and everything we love someday. Oh and most things don't matter but you'll miss the things that do for the rest of your days. XOXO, Your future self.”
Quiet Wealth, is remembering that I think.
Jade: My favorite part of that was when she says I took photos today where I looked far from perfect, but I kept all of them in my camera roll because perfect isn't the point of capturing memories. The word that came to mind was messy. And life can be so messy, and we are so complex, but like that is the beauty, right? And like, messiness with gratitude and deep appreciation. What else is there in life whenever you can just see it as it is with so much appreciation?
Amber: Yeah.
Megan: I think that that was coming to my mind too, Jade. Quiet Wealth doesn't mean things are perfect or like there's not challenges. I mean, we've been talking about 75 hard. That's challenging. That's tough mentally, you know or like watching hard things happen in life or our nervous system does get dysregulated and we do feel like stress, but it's the perspective of witnessing that from a space of love and abundance. Like, oh, this is for my growth. Oh, this is something that I want to be able to sit in. And not feeling the need to flee, I think, from our life's good and bad.
Amber: I like to think to myself when I go through something hard, I'm like, this is what I came for. It puts it in perspective. Like I heard something from listening to Abraham Hicks this morning. She said, you know, we didn't come to life to be perfect. We came here to evolve. And it really landed for me because evolution doesn't come from like, if I was in a room where like, I snapped my fingers and everything I wanted would just instantly show up. I would get so bored of that so fast.
Like, really think about it. After you asked for everything and you got everything, what would you do? You know? And so we came here for the evolution and the process and the unfolding. I think quiet wealth is a way to go through that process less stressed, less wanting to be somewhere else, and I think that's really valuable.
Aubin: I'm so glad you brought this up again, because I'll be fully transparent. I asked Amber when we got on before we recorded, like, help me center, I'm not in a good energy right now. Like, sometimes when we talk like this, people can think we're saying we're perfect, and everything always works great for us. And I was having a hard morning with my kids because they had school canceled, unbeknown to me, and we were going to record this podcast, so we had some struggles to make sure my house would be quiet enough.
And I didn't handle it perfectly how I want to all the time. And that's okay. Coming back to what we've been saying with all this. We have things that we know can help us regulate our nervous system, come back to where we are, and as soon as we're done recording, I'm going to go give my kids a big hug and say, you know what, I didn't say that the nicest way. I love you so much. You matter more to me than anything else, and that's the evolution you're talking about Amber.
Like, if I was just perfect all the time as a mom, that would be boring even. And even giving yourself that grace of saying, I'm not a perfect mom, and I love telling my kids that, and giving them hugs. Then they say, it's okay mom, I love you. And then when they make a mistake, I can give them a hug and say, it's okay, I love you. That's a real relationship and that's the quiet wealth of growing together.
Amber: And you wouldn't have had any of that wisdom if it was a perfect morning. You would have missed all of that insight. And so I think we forget that even the tough times, it is for our good. And I have so much resistance to that sometimes when I'm in it, but as soon as I have the awareness, I get all the wisdom and insight and perspective, right? And that's magic.
Jillian: I always say like, we don't learn when things are going well. We don't grow. We don't expand. We don't find any wisdom when we're, I'm using my hand up here, right? Like when things are going really great, where we learn and grow and expand. It's like you always have said, Amber, it's like depth and expansion, it's the opposite. It has to be true. In order for expansion to happen, we have to be willing to go here. It's like, we're going to miss the mess. It's like surrendering to it and being in it. I love this part of the message and I'm so glad we've landed here because I think it's really easy to see the highlight reel of all of us, right?
It's like, yes, we actually see our lives for the most part through this lens and that's what we talk about. And that's what we share is like this possibility, but that doesn't mean we're not in the trenches most days in some way, where we're learning and making mistakes and trying things on and experimenting for the sake of growth. And I love Aubin's example is like, I always say like my willingness to be messy is showing my kids that it's safe to be messy. That's part of the experience. And, that's so true. I'm so glad we've landed here because it's easy to be like, well, that must be nice. Right?
Amber: Sounds amazing!
Jillian: You land in a place that feels good all the time.
Amber: Yeah.
Jillian: I think this view is available for us to choose, but that doesn't mean that our very human brains allow us to choose it at a hundred percent all the time. So that's a really beautiful place to go.
Amber: I'll share one more story. This is like a long time ago. All my kids got a tummy bug and that's like the part I hate about motherhood. And I happened to be studying A Course in Miracles at the time. And so the passage I read that morning was, miracles are seen in the light. And it was like day two or three. And I was like, resentful. I felt like, victim. I was like, Wesley gets to leave for work. Like I was in that energy, you know, but I did read that little passage in the morning. And they're feeling well enough that we went outside and it started to snow just barely. Like it's going to make me cry because it's so ingrained in my mind.
These little flakes of snow came down and the sun shone through it. So it looked like these little sparkling lights falling down. And it was like one of those moments that I was like, okay, I'm listening. And I felt this sentence in my mind. It said, this is the frequency of everything, which is why you came. I wanted all of it, including the pukies. Because what I really saw is like, I want to be there for my kids. I would choose that. And like this element of choice, this feeling of high agency that I chose to come here to feel and experience all of it on purpose. And that moment, like, I didn't have the term quiet wealth.
I didn't have that language yet, but it's ingrained in my mind as one of those things that was teaching me what it was all about. Like Jillian said, I'm so glad you said we landed here. Cause it's not like I'm like, yes, I am always in this amazing energy where I see what's amazing about my kid, you know? No, but it's somewhere to come back to. And like, every time you come back to it, that's also a gift, right? That you remember you have the power of perception. You can choose to be in the miracle. That's always available. It's a place we get to come back to and enjoy every time that we do.
Megan: So one thing that I just keep thinking is like I love this conversation we're having. Like there's five of us here, and we're all kind of vibing off of each other, right? Like, energy is so shared and that's one of the things I love about Quiet Wealth, as in like the program. Or like Amber's group is, energy truly is shared. And like I feel my energy just being in this container with you guys right now vibrating at a higher frequency and feeling like, oh, perspective is coming back to me. Like I have been feeling a little off like Aubin.
I think I'm having some upper limit problems right now in my life in a good way, but I'm like, this is why community is so important. And this is why these containers are so powerful is because when you can get in a room with people who have this mindset and hold this type of energy and vibration, it is so natural to start mirroring it and to become like it. And so I don't know, just that thought keeps coming to me. I'm like, this is such a powerful group and a powerful container for people because hopefully, we all rise together and can experience it together.
Amber: Thank you for saying that Megan. Yeah, I agree. Yeah, thanks for selling Quiet Wealth for me. Thank you. Now all of you… no, but it is true. Like I think that, even you said this like when we were doing coach from soul like there's like power and being in a room together. And I know like many of you do like in person yoga or breath work and virtual is amazing too obviously like, Quiet Wealth is a virtual community, but I think being in community. I think that's what we're designed for is being in community with each other. We're not meant to live in a silo. And so it's a great space to do that.
Megan: And it's cool to watch. Like, I believe in radical responsibility, like you are in charge of you, but people, we are all mirroring each other. So like, yes, as we grow, we learn to hold our own space and our own energy, our own frame. But what I've found is, as I embrace quiet wealth and I get around people like you watch, I'm going to leave this container right now. And my kids are going to mirror this energy that I have and my husband's going to mirror it. And it doesn't just affect me. And yes, they always have control over themselves, but especially like this is just a Megan belief, so take it or leave it.
But like, I think moms, I call it like the chief energy officer, like she's the CEO. Like everyone is vibrating off of you in your family. And so like, it is not just going to affect you, like, the community, the collective, is influenced by energy that we hold, and we have so much power that we can take places. And so, I just think, like, oh, how cool to get in these spaces. Raise, rise, and then go out and then watch everyone around us experience that same lift if they choose to.
Amber: Yeah, it reminds me of Kathy Heller has that line in her book. That's like, you're someone because you're a sum of the one, right? We are all one. And the immediate place that I see it is with my kids. Like I think all of you, it's like the same, but like also with my clients, also at the grocery store. I can feel it when my energy is on. I see it, so powerful. Any final thoughts, ladies? This is amazing.
Jade: I had a new definition of quiet wealth pop into my mind towards the end. I don't remember who said what because I've just been soaking it all in. I'm like trying to stay present and listen to every word, but I'm also, like I get on tangents of like processing what you're saying, but just thinking about how I really believe that we are here to experience the whole spectrum of emotions. Like we're not just here to like chase happy or chase what we deem as positive. We are here to feel it all.
And like, Amber, you're talking about like your kids being sick and how like you were even able to take the lesson from that and have gratitude for something that we would label as negative, right? Whenever we're able to widen our capacity to feel and to experience all of it, to me, that's quiet wealth. When you can take a lesson from any emotion, from anything that happens in your life, you can see it for what it is, something that's meant to help you evolve, to teach you, to help you expand, to become like your higher, more expansive self. That is Quiet Wealth.
Amber: Thank you, Jane. Okay. Well, I just wanted to publicly thank each of you. I chose you on purpose because you embody Quiet Wealth to me. And I love how you teach it. And most importantly, live it. That's really important. So thank you for being leaders in my community. It means a lot to me. Both, in Quiet Wealth, but also just in the world. I'm like, It's cool that I'm like, yeah, I like how they live in the world. You know what I mean? It's really cool. So thank you. Obviously this is what we do in Quiet Wealth. So if you feel inclined, join us and thank you ladies for your time today. And I'll talk to you guys soon.
