ļ»æHey guys, welcome back to the podcast. I'm just trying to get present and I invite you to do the same. Be here with me now. That's something that has been woven into my message through all my podcast episodes, but I think it's different when we actually live it, right? It's one thing to know about the power of presence in an intellectual way and it's different when we actually drop in.
So wherever you are, whether you're driving, whether we're on a walk together, whether you're cleaning your house or you're just listening, wherever you are, I'm just going to invite you to get really present. Today we're going to be talking about effortless high performance. And it's just like a word that dropped in because that has been my journey for sure. So when I found personal development, mindset, entrepreneurship, what I like to call like the wisdom economy, I was really introduced to like high performance, the masculine sense of it, right?
So it's like getting things done, mastering productivity, massive action, like the world of intense motivation, right? And that's not bad. Like there's nothing wrong with it. It just didn't align with my soul. And so while there is, you know, a lot of work in the world about massive action and high levels of productivity and, you know, working a lot to achieve massive goals, my message is just a little bit different. While I do have massive goals, the way that I am creating it and plan to continue creating it is just different. And it feels effortless.
And there was a time in my life where I would have laughed at you and said you're crazy or that's too good to be true or you're delusional. And many of you probably have those thoughts, right? Like the feeling of effortless or ease or manifestation or, you know, conscious creation feels too good to be true or delusional. And this conversation today is for you. I'm going to invite you to have a conversation with me about effortless high performance that combines these theories of action and work. Like it's not that work doesn't matter. It's not that work isn't required.
It doesn't mean that I don't do anything. It just means I probably do less than you can imagine that I do. And I create bigger results than most people, at least in my life. Now, I'm not saying that I'm the best or that there's not people who create more than me like there are for sure. It's the spectrum. But I think relative to the amount of time I'm working and the amount of effort I put in, I create more results than most people. And I've been thinking about this like why? And it's because of the principles that I'm going to share today.
Principles that align with effortless high performance. So I just had a launch. Actually, this is going to be useful for our call today or a call today. It's not a call or conversation today since it's a podcast conversation. I launched a program, a short term program for three months called The Art of Impossible. Some of you listening to this are in that program. And I just had this idea one day that I want to teach this concept, right? The art of impossible.
How do you create something you've never created before, but not just create something you've never created before with hustle, right? How do you create something you've never created before in business while deepening your spirituality, while being a present mom, while having a great marriage, while taking care of your body, right? How do you do all of these things at the same time? For many women, that feels impossible. And men too, I'm sure. But especially women who, you know, many of my clients are like me where it's like, I don't just want to work on my business all the time. I want my relationships to be thriving.
I want to have time for spiritual connection, to meditate, to study, to pray. And this was my mission with The Art of Impossible is like, how can I teach people to do this? And obviously I didn't call it effortless high performance, but that really is at the heart of The Art of Impossible. And so I was thinking about how I could teach this on the podcast, obviously in The Art of Impossible, like we're coaching and we're creating together. This will be a one-way conversation, but a conversation nonetheless with me.
And so I took some notes on my little sticky cards or my sticky notes about things that I wanted to cover for sure and how I have effortless high performance. And the first thing that I wrote down is something that I've been asking myself a lot recently, which is what would love do through me today? And I'm just going to say that again, like notice how this lands in your body. What would love do through me today? Just notice this has nothing to do with business.
But when I ask that question, it often includes business. Sometimes it's my husband. Sometimes it's my daughters. Sometimes it's a friend. Sometimes it's my mom. What would love do through me today? And it's present. So this is the thing about effortless high performance is you can't do effortless high performance in the future. Like I can't do effortless high performance in six months from now. I can only do it today. And so it is present moment awareness of what possibilities are coming to me in this moment. Right.
So like there was a time where I used to do the high performance planner with Brendan Burchard, and he asks a similar question. And the lens that I looked the world through at the time was different than the lens that I look at the world through now. And so it was like, what do I feel inspired to do? And it was like very logical, very intellectual. It felt like force. That is not how I experience this question now. So when I ask myself, what would love do through me today? It is not force. It really is like a little nudge. It's an invitation from the spirit.
It's a little invitation from the universe. Like, do you want to co-create with me today? And my answer is always yes. Now, the thing that most people get stuck on is like you're judging it. It's like the other day I had a little nudge. Reach out to this person and just like share words of appreciation. And so I did. Nothing came of it. It's not like I made money. It's not like my business progressed. It's not like something tangible happened. It doesn't always mean, okay, I did this thing and then I instantly got a client. Like that's not how it works. Right.
But the more that I live this way, what would love do through me today, the more I feel inspired, the more fulfilled I feel, the more like I am an answer to prayer, the more I feel like I show up right on time for my clients, which is a belief that I really love. Right. I don't come uninvited into my clients. I joke with them like you invited me here. Right. Like you caused me to be here.
I am an effect for most people. So something in your consciousness made yourself available for my work, for my words, for my coaching, for this podcast, for my Instagram, whatever, because that's how life actually works.
Not just me, but everything we invited in based on what we're thinking and believing. And so I love to believe that I'm an answer to prayer. I also know that other people answer my prayers all the time through the form of podcasts, books, texts, coaching, masterminds, events, Instagram posts. Like it can happen so many different ways because I really believe that we're all co-creating. So by asking this question, it is a conscious choice to be part of the co-creation instead of an unconscious choice. I want to be inspired. I want to take aligned action.
I want to feel like I'm co-creating with the people in my orbit. And so I love this question. What would love do through me today? The next set of questions is what do I want and what do I want now? And those two questions are very useful, especially when you have a belief like I do that it's good for the world when I get what I want, which most women have a hard time believing, but I am a huge advocate for believing this. It's good for the world when I get what I want. So checking in with myself, what do I want? What do I want now? Right.
The other day I did this. It was a work day and I had my nanny and I was like, what do I really want? And I was sitting at my desk and I was like, you know what? I want to read. I had time. I didn't have a client call. I didn't have any to do's that were pressing, took my book and read for like 30 minutes. And it felt so abundant and I had so many ideas and there was a version of me that that wouldn't have been available. I would have like powered through and like done something, quote, productive, which is funny because that's it's not that reading isn't productive.
It just that's an old way of thinking where it's like productive was like something physical in the world created. And now it's like, hmm, productive versus meaningful to me, productive versus enjoyable, productive versus useful to me. Productivity is often outward focus, but this question is different. Sometimes it is outward focus and sometimes it's just for the experience of your life. I think one of the aspects of effortless high performance also means like the quality of your life increases. So food for thought. What do I want? What do I want now?
And just honoring whatever comes up for you. The next key that I want to share is something that is practical moment by moment, the better feeling thought. So I'm constantly reaching for a better feeling thought so that I can improve my vibration. I can prove my mood. I can improve the possibilities that I see in my life. One of the things that I teach my clients is like when you are a coach or a mentor, you have to serve as the lighthouse for your client, which means you have to have your vibration higher than your client so that your client can calibrate to you.
And so this work is not just I mean, yes, I want you to enjoy your life. Yes, I want your day to be full of ease and flow and joy and freedom. But it's also like a practical tool to attract clients to you that you are vibrating at a higher level than them, that you have a higher level of consciousness available, that you see possibilities bigger than they see them. Like I see that as my number one job as a coach. That is my work. So that when I show up in Voxer, when I show up on a call, when I'm leading a group call, when I'm teaching, when I'm on this podcast, when I am showing up in a community, whatever, I am at the leading edge of that room that I'm holding.
And so I'm constantly asking myself, what's a better feeling thought? And it doesn't matter if I wake up in a low spot, right? I don't judge myself for being at a low, especially like being human, being a mom, being in the world, like you're going to have days where you don't feel good. You're going to have things that maybe you're sick or maybe something happened and you wake up in a low state. The distinction that I like, Tony Robbins says like being in a beautiful state. And I really like that. That's what I try to choose as much as I can.
I don't want to be judgmental of a lower state, but I also want to do the work to choose a better feeling thought. And this is not the same thing as gaslighting myself. This is not the same as suppressing my emotions. It's actually non-resistance to my emotions and choosing a better feeling thought in the moment. Because this isn't about choosing a thought that's like so impossible to believe that it just feels unuseful. The example that I'll give is like, let's say I wake up in a lower vibrational state and I'm feeling a little down, a little bitter, or a little resentful.
Maybe that's the state that I woke up in. I'm not going to think like miracles happen all the time from places known and unknown. Like that would be too hard to really believe. The key here is to pick a thought that actually feels real to you. That's better than the thought that you've been believing. So if I was in a bitter or resentful state, it might just be like I'm open to seeing my day differently. That is a thought I use a lot when I'm in a low state. I'm open to seeing this differently. I'm open to seeing this day differently. I'm open to seeing myself differently.
Sometimes it's like I want to feel the fresh air. Like it literally could be like me going on a walk outside. Another thing that I do is I put my hand on my heart and I say like a little prayer like help me see this differently. If I can't do this work, give me a different thought. That is often enough to change the way that I feel moment by moment. Now if I'm feeling pretty good, that's where I like to play in possibilities. Most days I wake up feeling pretty good and I'm very blessed to say that. I realize I also will say I've done a lot of inner work to get to this place. Before I found coaching, I was in a, I would say a cycle of like normal to depressed, right?
Normal, depressed, normal, depressed. And I would cycle through that every few months or years where I'd find myself in a state of depression. And I haven't had that experience in a very long time because I've done this work of raising my consciousness, raising my vibration to experience higher levels of joy, abundance, freedom. And you can do this too. This is what we do as coaches. This is why I read the books I read. This is why I hire the people that I hire.
This is why I put myself in the rooms that I put myself in the rooms with because I've seen the physical change and the emotional change and the consciousness change in my life for myself, which is why I'm here with you because I want to do that for you as well. It's like I heard this distinction from Alex Ramosi. He's like marketing. You can either be a missionary or a mercenary, right? People who have missionary marketing, like they just believe in what they're sharing. That's how I feel, right? I'm a missionary for consciousness work because it's changed my life. And so this is a huge tool, not even huge.
The real word is like, it's a small tool that I use a lot. It's a small tool that I use all the time. What's a better feeling thought? How can I amplify how I'm feeling? If I'm feeling grateful and alive and joyful, how can I amplify this? I want to share it, right? If I'm feeling abundant and prosperous, like how do I share it? That's a thought that comes a lot. It's like, how do I amplify this? And a lot of times it's inspiring someone else to feel what I'm feeling.
Maybe it's like dance party with my girls. Maybe it's, let's go to the park. Maybe it's, you know, sharing fun news with my husband or asking him fun questions. But I'm always checking in with myself, like what's a better feeling thought from this moment? There's a great book called Levels of Energy that I just read. Other books, so there's three books actually that I recommend.
The first one is The Map of Human Consciousness by David Hawkins. The second one is Power Versus Force by David Hawkins. And the third one is Levels of Energy by Frederick Dodson.
All three of those books go nerdy into the levels of energy, the levels of consciousness, where you can kind of see like where you're at in the scale, choosing a new level thought so that you feel better, so that you improve, so that you feel more possibilities, so that you feel more joy, so that you see things in an improved state. Not because lower states are bad. They're not morally bad. We don't need to judge it. It's just that's not the highest choice available, right?
And so I want to be spiraling up. If you've taken The Art of Deep Coaching with me, I teach this as like all you are responsible for in a session is helping your client choose a better feeling thought and move up on the scale, right? The emotional scale or the levels of energy, whatever tool you want to think of, that's what we're responsible for in a session. Because as you move up on the scale, new possibilities, new thoughts become available. And from there, they can make a higher level choice to get where they want to go. And so you don't need to fix.
You don't need to solve. You know, if they're in a state of like depression, they're not going to leave in a state of ecstasy in your session. You're just responsible for moving them up on the scale a few shifts. And that will produce miracles. That is enough to produce miracles. And so you can do this for yourself all day long. And I recommend you do. This is effortless high performance. So I'll give you an example. I actually did this before this podcast. I sat down. I'm looking out my window.
I had no idea, no idea what I wanted to share, what I wanted to speak about before I started taking notes. But like, how did I get to the notes? I asked myself, what's a better feeling thought than this? So I was thinking, like, I don't know what to say. I was like, well, that's not helpful. What's a better feeling thought? Like, what would I love to speak about? And that thought led me to some of the books that I've read. And I was like, oh, I really like Levels of Energy by Frederick Dodson. Oh, I really liked. I'm reading a book called The Imagination Matrix.
And those books were really fun. Like, how can I talk about this? And then the word popped up, effortless high performance. I was like, oh, yeah, like, I want to talk about effortless high performance. Then I wrote down my thoughts, and then I hit record. And now I'm here with you. Like, that's a real time moment of how you can use what's a better feeling thought. So if you ever feel stuck on what to post, what to share, if you're like, oh, I really want to post on Instagram, but I don't know what to say.
Okay, what's a better feeling thought than I don't know what to say? A better feeling thought might be like, what have I read recently that I would love to share my take on? What's a quote I could share? What's a story I could tell? Those are higher level thoughts that I don't know what to post. You can use the tool, hand on heart, help me see this differently. The next piece of effortless high performance is inspired action, which kind of builds on what would love do through me today. Inspired action is different than strategic action.
So I'll give you two examples. Earlier this year, I did the Conscious Coach Academy launch, and that was very strategic. I spent months planning it. I did a lot of logical intellectual work to prepare for that launch, and it was amazing. And many of you listening to this joined the Conscious Coach Academy, which is amazing. And that was a very strategic launch. So there was planning. I had meetings, right? I had dates on my calendar. I had a plan.
And then you contrast that with an inspired action, which was the Art of Impossible launch, where it's like, I had an idea. I got a sales page up that day. I enrolled my first client two days later when I sent an email about it. Not a lot of prep, not a lot of strategic planning, not a lot of overthinking, just aligned, inspired action. What's funny is, is both of those launches did very well, and both were very different. But I will say the Art of Impossible launch felt effortless, while the Conscious Coach Academy launch felt planned, felt calculated, felt prepared, which isn't, that's not a bad emotion. I tend to like more of the inspired action.
And so that was good for me to see the difference. I was like, ooh, like, I think I like taking inspired action. That feels effortless to me. The next piece that I wrote down, I teach the concept of the three fields of creation. I do this in lots of my programs. Many of you have heard it. Predictability, possibility, potentiality, right? So I love creating from potentiality and possibility. It's not that I don't love creating and predictability. It's just a different experience. It doesn't feel as magical or fun. It feels responsible. If that's your thing, love it.
I tend to like to create from possibility, where it's like, I'm creating what I've never created before. I feel inspired by it. I feel energized by it. It does not feel boring, which aligns with me. So that being said, right, that means there's some tradeoffs, right? Predictability is like, I know exactly how this is going to happen. I can plan for it. I can predict it. I can have statistics about it. Versus possibility, potentiality is like, I don't know how this is going to work. I'm not sure where the client is going to come from. I'm open to possibilities and miracles.
And like I said, this isn't for everyone. It's not. This is just how I happen to like to create. So like, I love the thought clients come to me from places known and unknown. That is a statement of possibility. That is not a statement of predictability. So a statement of predictability was like, I sign clients for my Facebook group. That's how I sign clients. And that's fine. There's nothing wrong with that. So if you are someone who loves predictability, like maybe you were someone who had a job and you became an entrepreneur and you crave that predictability, my thought process might not be useful for you.
Just being really honest, you might need a teacher that teaches more in predictability. That's good awareness for you to know. I like all of it. So like there's some parts of my business are very predictable. And like the example I always use with my private clients is like my recurring revenue. So recurring revenue is predictable. I have clients that pay me monthly for the matrix.
I have clients that pay me monthly for one on one. I have clients that pay monthly for the Quiet Wealth Collective. I have clients that pay monthly for the mastermind that I run. Right.
And that's great. I can look in my account and predict how much money I'm going to make next month. And I love that money. And that's awesome. And it feels abundant to have that. But it is not the same thing as what I did last month, which was, hmm, I would love to sign a one on one client. I think I'm going to put this in an email and put it on my Instagram. I don't know where it's going to come from. But like that feels really fun to sign a client like a one on one client. And I had a very magical consult and we'll be working together in 2025.
But that was created from possibility, not predictability. That feels different than recurring revenue. Feels fun. Feels magical. But it's not the same thing. And so I like teaching my clients how to have all three working at the same time. Clients come to me from places known and unknown. And I have a predictable stream of income in my business that I build on. That feels very abundant. Predictability, possibility, potentiality. When I have all three of those working for me, it feels effortless. My high performance feels effortless.
So when I record this podcast, when I post on social media, when I show up for my coaching calls, when I'm in Voxer with my private clients, it does not feel difficult or hard. I am not forcing it. I am flowing. Right. That's a key indicator that I am in effortless high performance. Feels like flow. That doesn't mean that I never have resistance. I do. I told you the story today for my podcast. I felt a little resistance before I recorded this podcast and now I don't. I'm totally in flow.
And so resistance isn't something to be scared of. Resistance isn't something to make wrong. Resistance doesn't mean that you're not believing hard enough or that you're not woo enough or that you're not manifesting enough. That is not useful. Resistance means you probably need to choose a higher level thought, a better feeling thought, and then you can flow in. Predictability has a different quality of thought than potentiality. Like I shared, I love looking at my Stripe account and seeing predictable revenue coming in.
And I love the possibility that at any given point, a client can come to me from places known and unknown and we can work together. I like both. I used to not like I used to make potentiality better. I think potentiality felt preferred because it felt so magical. And I think that's what people think of when they study manifestation or study conscious co-creation. It's like they want the magical feeling. I'm like, yeah, you can have the magical feeling, but like, let's also create some predictable revenue too. Like let's do both or let's do all three, right?
Predictability, possibility and potentiality, all happening at the same time. Possibility, the way that I would distinguish between potentiality and possibility is possibility is like could go either way. 50-50, right? If I send this email and I say, I have one spot for private coaching, someone could respond or someone could not respond. Versus potentiality is when I get a DM from someone I didn't know saying, I want to talk to you about private coaching, which has happened.
And I love creating that too, but I can't predict that, right? I can't make that happen except for believing that it could happen. But I don't know when, don't know how, don't know who. That's how I know I'm in the field of potentiality. I don't know how, I don't know who, and I don't know when. If you need to know who and you need to know how and you need to know when, that is a sign that you want predictability in your business. Good for you to know. That's good awareness, right? For us to know what we need to need nothing.
That's a very powerful concept that I teach my clients. Like if you want business to work the best, need nothing. Now, going upstream from that question, what do you need to need nothing? Some of you need more predictability. I can truly show up on a consult with a private client or a potential private client and not need them to sign because I have enough predictability in my business and I have enough history of creating from possibility and potentiality that I truly don't need it.
Contrast that to when I got started in my business, when I really did need money. I created clients more predictably in that season of my business because I did need the money. I couldn't pretend I didn't need it. I did need it. And so I created clients differently than how I create clients now. And that's the game of expansion in business. It's just good awareness for you to know where you're at. Okay. The next piece that I wrote down is action in order to versus action as an expression of who I am. This is a high level concept, but it has changed my life.
I'll give you an example. Let's say I'm on Instagram and I would love a client, right? When I asked myself the question, what would I love? What would I want? If all things were possible, what would I love? And I was like, I would love to sign a client. I would love to share how I work with my clients and make an invitation, right? The action is an invitation to reach out to me about private coaching. As an example, that feels different than me checking my bank account saying I need to make money and then going to Instagram and making an invitation for private coaching.
Same action, posting an invitation about private coaching, completely different energy, completely different reasons, and it will be experienced completely different from your audience. Now, there's nothing wrong with feeling lack. So let's say rewind the tape. You're looking at your bank account. You're like, I need money. That is not the time to go post about private coaching on social media. You will need to clean up some of your thoughts and beliefs and your energy before you show up. That's so important, right?
So that you can show up in the spirit of abundance so that you can need nothing. So you might take some time to journal about gratitude in your life, right? Maybe your business isn't working, but you have a great relationship with your husband. Maybe your business isn't working, but you love being a mom. Maybe your business isn't working, but you love working out every day. Find the abundance of your life before you go posting about private coaching. This will make a lot of you guys a lot of money. It's because we talk through our subconscious beliefs, right?
So if you're showing up from the energy of lack, the way that you're going to talk about private coaching will be from what you need, not what the client needs. When I show up in abundance, I'm very clear that I am an asset. I am a resource. I am a powerful, abundant, like I said, asset for my client. Them signing with me is not for me. I don't need them to be my client more than they want me to be their coach. And that distinction is everything.
So if I'm trying to sell my coaching in order to, right, in order to sign a client and make money, I have missed the point, versus I am selling my private coaching or inviting my people to ask me about private coaching as an expression of the abundance that I am, that is different. You can go back and listen to that whole segment because that is gold. Action in order to is always of lesser quality than action as an expression of who I am. And you can check this. You can see this playing out in your own life. I know I can.
When I write an email frantically because I'm worried about something or I'm like, no one likes me, I need to validate my belief in myself by people joining my program. That is not the energy of abundance. That does not create the clients that I want to work with, versus I've done so much inner work. I see the world very differently than most people. I really do. And I believe that. And you probably do too. It's just owning that, right? I own that. I see the world very differently. I am divine intuition. I am a new perspective and perception for people.
Like I know that about myself. I see the world abundantly full of possibility, full of big belief. And so I know when I'm in that zone and I invite people into my space, into the room, into a container with me, it serves them. The byproduct of that is me getting paid and signing a client. But that is not why they say yes. I don't need anything. I'm inviting them. And so just check yourself. Action in order to versus action as an expression of who I am, right? I post on social media because that is an expression of who I am. I am someone who adds value to the world.
I am a lighthouse. Versus I post on social media so I can send clients. I post on social media so that people will buy things from me. Like it's not bad. It's not like a morally bad decision. But just notice how it feels in your body. One feels constricting. One feels open and expansive. I choose the open and expansive every time. The last thing that I'll share about effortless high performance is being engaged in what you're presently doing. This is practiced. This is honed. This is cultivated. This is not something you stumble into.
So when I started studying Eckhart Tolle, like his two books, The Power of Now and A New Earth, he talks about the present moment. That was one aspect of my spiritual awakening for sure. Like I had a visceral reaction to reading A New Earth. I will never forget it. I was in Reno, Nevada. I read this book. I go into Old Navy and I'm like feeling the clothes. I'm like walking through the store like feeling the clothes. So alive, so present. I did not need anything in that moment. I don't even think I bought anything. I went into Old Navy thinking I was going to buy something and then I didn't because I have everything I need.
It was a very spiritual moment for me. I'm not saying you have to be at that level all the time. But when you infuse presence into what you do, people can feel it. Like we can make this very tactical. My kids always know when I'm truly present with them. And if I'm not, they tap my knee.
Mom, right? They want my full attention. And you can even know this. There's been studies about if you even have your phone out, let's say you're at dinner and your phone is like face down at dinner, it's still is distracting for the person that you're with because some of your attention is on the phone.
So just notice the quality of your actions are going to be improved when you're fully present in the now. The people in your life will benefit from when you are fully present. Your clients will benefit when you're fully present. The potential clients that you're selling to will benefit when you're fully present on Instagram, in an email, on a podcast, in a conversation. It is the best gift that you can give, especially in this present day, right, where everyone is distracted and attention is like the new oil and attention is hard to come by.
If you can give someone your full attention, you will change their life. They will pay you. They will want to be in your presence. They will want to stay in your world because you are giving them something very few people can give them, full presence. And so practice that as much as you can in business. That is how effortless productivity, effortless high performance feels. It feels like flow and flow comes from present moment doing, right? You are so present.
You're not even thinking about doing.
There's a great book that I'll recommend called Flow by, oh, okay, I'm going to apologize for his name, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, something like that. I cannot say his name, but you can go look at it. It's called Flow. I highly recommend that book as well. You've probably felt flow in different times of your life, but effortless high performance feels like flow and flow comes from presence. And so practice being present in your body. Practice putting your mind where your feet are and notice the different kind of energy. Notice the different kind of clarity that you have.
And that to me is effortless high performance. That's what I try to tap into every day for business and in motherhood, right? Like this does not just apply to entrepreneurship. It applies to personal relationships. It applies to your workout. It applies to the walk that you go on outside. It applies to the sermon you watch on TV, the teacher at church. It applies to when you're on the phone with your mom. It applies to when you're in the grocery store.
It applies to when you're reading a book by yourself, present moment awareness leads to effortless high performance. It does. So try it. I hope this podcast was helpful. If it was, I would love to hear from you. I love getting feedback from you. And if it was super, super helpful, share it with a friend. Okay. Talk to you soon. Bye.
