ļ»æHey guys, welcome back to the podcast. I thought it'd be fun to do a little bit of a life update on what I've been working on, my thoughts about my life in business, kind of a behind-the-scenes look because I have been in a season of massive growth. Many, many times, many moments throughout the past few weeks and months, I have felt like I'm at capacity.
And what's interesting about taking on new projects, new ideas, and growth is that your capacity expands. So one of the things that I've been noticing is that I have more capacity, definitely, than I used to. I was actually thinking a lot about how I started my business as a life coach and where my capacity really was.
Like, I just didn't have the capacity. And it's like a muscle, right? Like when we lift heavy weights, we are literally unable to lift heavy weights if we've never trained before. That's how it is in a business. It's not something to judge ourselves for. It's just something to be aware of. As a life coach, and my babies were young, so I was nursing. I had a two-year-old. My life looked very different than it does now. I just didn't have that much capacity for what I do now.
I also did not have the skills and the fortitude inside of my own mind to take on projects of the size that I'm taking on now. As I've grown myself, like I said, my mindset and my skillset both, I'm able to take on projects. So I wanted to front load you with that because not all of you, one, want my business. One of the principles that I teach is meaningful milestones. So knowing what you actually want is an important part of business because not all of you want my business.
Some of you do. Some of you have aspirations to build a business like mine, and some of you have aspirations that are way bigger than mine. It doesn't really matter. It matters to you. And so as you listen to some of the projects that I'm creating and what I'm doing in my business, it may or may not resonate, and that's okay. What I know is your desires create a path for you. I know for me, my desires have absolutely carved out a path of the things that I want.
So this season, this life update, is about some of the things that I'm creating that I want to create and have wanted to create for a long time. So the first one, if you're on my Instagram, you saw me launch this. If you're only on my podcast, you might have missed this launch. I did a launch of the Quiet Wealth Collective, which is my new membership program, and I'm excited about it.
It's about creating wealth consciousness. It's about productivity, lifestyle, living your ideal calendar, making more money, slowing down, and really enjoying the ride because success is not one-dimensional. Success is four-dimensional. And so as I've been teaching that principle for years, I've also had to embody it at a higher level. And so it's like, how do people create the life that they want without completely burning out?
How do people create what they want without falling into the trap of creating what other people want? And that's why Meaningful Milestones becomes so relevant for us because I know a lot of people who, they get into programs or they get certified or they follow a particular leader or coach or mentor, and there's certain what I'll call standardized goals that become normalized and kind of held up as like, this is what success looks like, and I'll give you a few.
Making $100K as a coach, having a seven-figure business, having a seven-figure launch, becoming a New York Times bestselling author, retiring your husband. These are some of the standardized goals, and I'm not saying they're even bad. It's just, are they meaningful to you? Because the ones that are deeply meaningful to you, you will have the energy to pursue them. I can always tell when people don't really want something, they're just saying that they want it because that's what sounds good, because they're not motivated.
What's interesting about motivation is it is nurtured for sure. It's not that motivation just like lands, but motivation gets you started. The most motivated you're ever going to be is at the beginning of any project. So when I started my business, I was very motivated. Now, what's interesting is the devotion and the discipline come after the motivation. But if you are trying to force yourself to get excited about your goals, they're probably the wrong goals.
And I have absolutely seen that in my life because what I have been up to has stretched me in so many ways. I've been taking on a lot, but I have the energy for it. I am on fire for everything that's happening in my life, including in my personal life. My kids are starting school. They started soccer. We're at a fun phase, like my oldest daughter just learned how to ride a bike. We're just in a really fun phase of life. And I have energy for that, too, because I'm doing the things that are actually meaningful to me.
So here's the first update as I launched the Quiet Wealth Collective. I kind of mentioned that, which is my new program. It's a membership. We're going to do a book club. I'm teaching different kinds of principles. It's not necessarily related to business, but it is about productivity and creating what you want, both starting with your mind and your thoughts, but also with the actions that you take. It's about gratitude. It's about your lifestyle. And I'm really excited.
And so we had our founding members launch, and we have dozens of women who joined. And I'm really excited. We're just kicking off. I taught my first class. I'm preparing to lead the first book club. It's a really, really cool offer that I'm excited to keep developing over time. And that has obviously taken a lot from me to get the community ready, get the trainings ready, get the schedule ready, figure out the sales page, and the launch for it. And so that just wrapped up.
You can read more about the Quiet Wealth Collective. It'll be open for enrollment again in October. Go ahead and go to quietwealth.co/join. I'll link that up in the show notes as well, but it's quietwealth.co not com.co forward slash join. And you can read more during the waitlist and be the first one to know when it opens again, which is so exciting.
The other thing that I'm up to is writing a book, and it has been quite the project. I joined a program by Rich Litvin called Write Your Tiny Book or Tiny Book to Create 100K Clients or something like that. And so the idea is you write this book to help you create clients. And I loved it as a coach, as someone who mentors other people. I love sharing the ideas that work for me.
So I have been writing a book for the past few months, I would say, and it's ready. So it will be available on Amazon. I'm not quite sure on the launch date, but I wanted to keep you posted to look out for my book that I'm also calling Quiet Wealth. It's all my frameworks and mindset perspectives on how I've built a life creating what I want without sacrificing what I have.
So when I started my business, having the two baby girls, I didn't want to lose my love of motherhood. I didn't want to lose like the presence and the depth of joy that I felt like taking them to the park and like reading them books and all these things that I love about my life while I pursued business success. I wanted both, which is why the idea of four dimensional success really, really lands for me. And in the book, I even share some stories, both client stories and my own stories about the reality that like sometimes success is not what you think, and it feels disappointing.
The other thing that I talk about is how important integrity is, because when you act out of integrity, even if you get business success, it will not feel good. That's the whole point of this whole podcast, of my message is like you can create success, but you don't have to become someone different and sacrifice your own morals and values to do so because success is an internal experience. In fact, one of my favorite quotes I'm like obsessed with it's by Rick Rubin, which you probably heard me say before.
He says success occurs in the privacy of the soul. It's easy to get distracted on Instagram to compare yourself to like the seven figure launch person that you don't even know personally. You have no idea if their marriage is good. You have no idea if they're a present mom. You have no idea if they like themselves. You have no idea how their spirituality is. And so I think it's easy to compare to the metrics that we see online: revenue, follower count, money made, launch numbers.
And we miss what I would argue the second half of success that people only a lot of times find later is the experience of our lives, the way we live day to day, not just what we create, but how we feel, not just the numbers in our bank account, but like waking up. Are you happy? Do you like your life? Do you have a sense of gratitude and purpose? Can you be at home with yourself? Do you have a body that's regulated where like you are calm on the inside?
Because I think it's easy to accidentally slip into kind of that hustle and grind mentality. I know when I first got started online, that was like a big push, like us only grind. We're focused on creating our success and we're going to hustle to do it. I'm not saying that action isn't required because action absolutely is required, but there is an energy that we can bring to our action that feels way more aligned and purposeful and centered and grounded.
And what I like to think of as like closing the tabs, you can turn that off to go be the person that you want to be in your home life and alone, even like when you're by yourself, like, are you the kind of person that you like being with? And a lot of times, if we get trapped in thinking and what I call like the hamster wheel of success, right? More, more, more, more, more, more, more. More money, more business growth, more success.
If you don't pause and ask yourself, like, do I even want this? You will find yourself in a place that you don't really want to be in. Like there's so many stories of this online that I'm both discovering, but also just like I'm aware of personally, like people that like, wait, I was hustling and hustling and hustling and hustling to get here. And I don't even know if I want this anymore.
And so that's what the book Quiet Wealth is about is like, how do you create meaningful success? How do you balance it all?
That's another question that I get. I have three daughters and I'm a very present mom. I run a multi six figure business. I have people that I hire to help me. I manage like a little bit of a team. It's not a huge team, but it is a team. I go on dates with my husband. Like we have a great marriage. I have time to read. I have time to journal. How do I do it all? I teach that in the book and I teach my productivity framework and I even hesitate to use the word productivity. I almost wanted to use the word creation, but I think productivity is the word that most people are familiar with.
Like how do I get stuff done across all areas of my life? Not because I'm perfect, but because I would call them either like a ritual or a frame of mind that I take into my day to create this podcast, to show up for my client calls, to make dinner or take my girls out to dinner or go to the park or whatever I'm up to during that day. There's a frame of mind and a system that I use to get stuff done that I can't have it all.
I wrote an email. If you're not on my email list, you should be. But I wrote an email that really resonated with people that I called the four dimensional life because I think we're in an era that we want four dimensional success. In the beginning of my career, there are a lot of books and mentors that were kind of like the one dimensional success teacher. And I'll give you an example, like the marketing coach. They taught me how to market. And there's coaches for mindset or spirituality.
There's mentors for like a writing coach or a messaging coach. And I'm not dissing them at all. I have absolutely worked with people who teach one dimensional aspects of success. And it's just keeping in mind that this is one dimension of success. When we over prioritize one dimension of success, a lot of times it comes at the cost of the other dimensions of success. And that's what I want to help people avoid. You don't have to sacrifice, as in my example, like being the mom I want to be in the name of business growth. I can have both.
There is a mentality that goes with that. There is a frame that goes with that. So like how I actually choose to live my life and spend my time. There's an element of like expanding your consciousness. So you see new possibilities and creativity and solutions that maybe weren't available before you really believed you could have it all. That has been my, I guess, hill that I want to die on recently. And so as I'm leveling up, you know, I launched a membership. I wrote a book. There's other things that I'm preparing for, like the Conscious Coach Academy launch is coming.
This is like the capacity that I've been expanding into, is like I also started two mastermind cohorts about Quiet Wealth. So the Quiet Wealth Collective is a membership where there's trainings, there's other teachers, there's a community. But I also lead two mastermind cohorts where I meet with a group of six women each privately. We have discussions. We brainstorm. We support each other at a very high level, very high touch.
I also started those. I have the book, the membership, the masterminds. I have a Conscious Coach Academy launch and my kids are starting school. I have regular life stuff. I have been stretched. And so one of the things as I'm leveling up my capacity to create one, self-care has been more important than ever, taking time to myself, asking for alone time or going on walks.
Last week I went on a date with my husband and I took all my girls out on individual dates because I wanted that quality time with them.
And that's what balance actually looks like. It's not, I spend four hours on business and I spend four hours with my family. In this season, balance looked like spending more time working on my book and prioritizing individual time with everyone in my life that really mattered. It also looked like asking for help. It looked like being honest with myself about what I wanted. I had to check in with myself because I told Wesley one night, like, I think I bit off more than I can chew. When I said that to him, I had a quick check in, like, is this what I want? Is this what I want?
And if you studied human design, I'm a manifesting generator. And so I get lots of ideas and I'm inspired and I have a lot of creative energy to use. My life force energy actually goes up when I have meaningful projects that I'm passionate about, even though I've been at capacity in many ways, typing, creating, making the sales page, writing the chapters, editing, leading my client calls, teaching in the Matrix. Like I have so much going on, but I have never been more lit up.
And so it's interesting that this is an alignment for me. This may or may not be an alignment for you. But when I'm honest about what I want, the energy is there. It's just interesting to see that play out in real life, because I think sometimes I have less energy when I'm not going for what I want. And that's why I kind of write back to this conversation about meaningful milestones when it's meaningful to you, when you actually want it.
Things start to change because the energy becomes available. We unlock the energy with our intention, with our clarity of our desires. I teach something in the Quiet Wealth book that I call the Conscious Creation Matrix, which is basically this concept of like, how do you create your life consciously? And to create consciously, it's clear desires plus detachment. So this whole time that I've been like leveling up, taking care of myself, getting things done, working on projects in a growth season, for sure, I have been letting go. Like I will literally sit in my office and practice releasing.
There's a meditation that I really love. It's super simple by Brendan Burchard. And it's just release. I do this in my mind a lot of times when I wrap up my work day before I go back into mom mode. I sit in my chair just for a couple minutes and I think to myself, release, release, release. And it helps me let go of whatever thoughts, whatever, you know, lingering things that I need to get done, my to-do list for tomorrow, whatever. It helps me put that down so that I can be present because the presence is what we really want. And to me, presence is a huge part of Quiet Wealth.
If I'm working and I'm thinking about my kids, I'm probably not as productive at work as I could be. If I'm with my kids thinking about projects that I need to work on, I'm probably not as present as I want to be. And that's what feels really bad is your mind is in one place and your body is in another. And so part of my practice has been being where my feet are. And I'm not perfect at it, but like truly I am not perfect at it.
But it has been an intention to come back mentally to where my feet are because that's where all my energy is. If I am fully present when I'm cooking dinner and having a dance party with my kids, like they feel that. When I am on a client call and I'm fully present, I know my clients feel my presence, not just my physical presence, but my energetic presence that I am fully here. All my mental faculties are on working on the problem with them. There's a different quality experience.
And so that has been the name of my game is like the quality and the physical, the energetics of what I'm doing and the physical results, the fruits of my labor. And I want both. I want to love building, but I also want to love what I built. I want to love showing up for client calls and creating content like this. But I also want the fruit. I want to make money. I want to assign clients. I want to grow my business. I want to have an impact. And to me, that is quiet. Wealth is having both. And you can have both.
This is going to look and feel a lot different to all of you listening. Some of you are like, I want to build a seven-figure empire, but I don't want to burn out. I don't want to risk my kids' well-being. I don't want to ruin my marriage in order to achieve it. So there will be a certain way that you achieve what you want to achieve. And it might look different than your peers, and you might have to make different choices, but you can do it and you don't have to burn it all down.
The tagline of my book, Quiet Wealth, is creating what you want without sacrificing what you have. That is deeply meaningful to me because that has been my mission from day one is like, how do I keep and maintain what I already love about my life while I create more? That's building from sufficiency. It feels very abundant and it's kind of counterintuitive. And so I'm excited to share that with you in the book. When it comes out, I will absolutely let you know. I don't have a release date yet, but I will keep you posted.
And that's kind of what I've been up to. So I'm a busy mama. I have entrepreneur things. I have coaching things. I have a lot on my plate. And for some of you, especially if you're into human design, like if you're a projector, this might sound like insanity to you. But it's been lighting me up and I'm really excited and very, very grateful to have all of this because this is what I choose. And I think at the end of the day, that's what we all want is like to feel like we are consciously choosing what we do on a day to day basis. We are consciously choosing our results and we are consciously choosing our experience of life.
That's how we level up and that's how we grow and that's how we expand. And so I hope this episode served you in whatever way that you needed, whether that was inspiration to get more clarity about your meaningful goals, whether that was just like the permission to drop what is no longer meaningful to you and recreate yourself. Because I have gone through tons of seasons of recreation. I've recreated my offers. I've recreated who I am as a coach. I've recreated my schedule. I've recreated who I work with.
Like I have done so much recreation. And I think that is part of the game. I don't think we are meant to stay stagnant. I think we are meant to expand. So when you level up, you have to get more clarity. If the last time you got clarity about what you wanted was six years ago after you graduated college. And now you're like, you know, I haven't really thought about what I wanted. It is time. I try to do this monthly. I check in with myself, like what do I want?
Ideally, I'm asking that myself daily. What do I want? Sometimes I get asked like, what do you journal about? And one of the questions that I'm always asking myself is if all things are possible, what would I love? And what's interesting, if you feel like you don't have a clear picture of what you want, ask yourself this question more, because you'll start to notice things that you write down over and over and over again and other things you're going to write down one time and then you're going to forget about it.
And that's good information for you because it probably means it's not that important to you. And so revisiting this question, different seasons, different periods of life. After you've gone through something hard, it's a great time to check in. If all things are possible, what would I love? When your kids leave the home and you have adult children, ask yourself, if all things are possible, what would I love? When you're fully booked and you're like, oh, shoot, this used to feel really hard to me. And now, like, I'm a fully booked coach. Ask yourself, if all things are possible, what would I love?
If you've hit milestones, maybe you hit seven figures and you're like, crap, I did the thing that I thought I wanted to do. Now what? If all things are possible now, what would I love? I think that dreaming can change. Maybe it's. like the trip of a lifetime. Maybe it's, I only want to work a few days a week. Maybe it's. I want to work with this kind of client. Maybe it's, I want to become an investor. I don't know. But you have to keep checking in with yourself because your needs and desires are evolving just like you.
And so revisiting the question is so important. So I'm going to end the podcast with that question for you. If all things are possible, what would you love? Think about it and have fun with it, and I will see you in another episode. Talk to you soon. Bye.
